Supplying Your Teens with Alcohol

16 hell no. 18 at graduation party where keys are taken and they are watched ok. Call cps this is insane

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16 hell no. 18 at graduation party where keys are taken and they are watched ok. Call cps this is insane

At 16/17 that is singlehandedly the dumbest idea ever. First, she is purchasing alcohol for a minor. Second, he is taking this alcohol to parties that are NOT at her house and most likely sharing. If the party is at her house, the parents know that drinking will be allowed and allow their kids at this party, and keys are taken so no one drives? That is their decision. I never allowed it and would not give permission to my kids to attend such a party.

That said, I did allow my son to drink beer after he graduated from high school and was going into the military. My thought was if he can die for our country, he can have a Bud.

No. No no no.

His brain is still developing, and she's working to stunt it. She's teaching him to drink and get in a car - which is his next step. She's teaching him that he cannot have fun without alcohol. And he's going to tell his friends, and some of them are going to start stealing $20 from their parents' wallets to do the same thing. Maybe they'll even ask her to get them their alcohol. She's sending him into someone else's home where that adult doesn't know the guest has been drinking. She's risking arrest. How many ways can we spell "disaster" here?

What I would focus on with my kid is how to get extricated from a party where this is going on (because I doubt this teen is the only one). Google safe words and coded texts that the teen can send to get Mom or Dad to take on the role of the "heavy" and taking the teen home, while the teen saves face by telling friends Mom and Dad are horrible slave drivers. Whatever keeps your own teen safe. The teen with alcohol doesn't even know this is an issue, let alone that Mom thinks it's no big deal.

When my kids were teens some parents supplied the kids with alcohol figuring they'd sneak it anyways. The thought process was that they were drinking at home instead of driving around.

For me it was never something I would ever do.Drinking age is 21 and if you weren't 21 you weren't drinking at my house. Period.

Absolutely not! And if her kids drink that alcohol and somehow injure someone else, or give it to their friends, she's going to be in huge trouble legally.

The whole 'take their keys' approach doesn't sit well with me. Even if they aren't driving, there are still a multitude of bad choices that an impaired teen can make. Not to mention the fact that its illegal.

I think this is a horrible idea for many reasons. First and foremost, it is illegal. Parents demonstrating no respect for the law encourages kids in the same way. Second - why would you possibly set your kid up for that knowing the health risk(s) let alone the the propensity to not make great decisions where alcohol is a player. I've seen grown people turn into complete morons when alcohol is added to a party. Thirdly, what about addiction? I would hate to think if my kid developed an addiction to alcohol, that I had played a role in that.

I do not buy into the idea that kids will have alcohol anyway so let's do it in our house. That is nuts in my opinion. I also believe kids will rise or sink to wherever we set the bar for them. I will never set the bar low, ever.

This was sadly common where I used to live (and where my kids grew up). I was the "mean mom" because a) never in a million trillion years was this ever going to happen at my house, and 2) if I found out that a mom (or dad) was doing this, my kid was never allowed to "party" there again. Ever.

http://www.fox9.com/news/blue-earth-students-charged-for-...

This happened at a party where the mom would let the kids drink at on a regular basis. She said she took keys (she didn't) and she said she never supplied the kids alcohol (she did), and she said every party was personally supervised by her (it wasn't). All of these kids lives were ruined by a parent's bad choice. Don't be that parent. (don't mean to insinuate that you would ever do this - I am actually assuming that you are simply asking out of curiosity)

When I was 18 I knew a guy who's mom would buy it if you gave her money but she refused to allow you to drink it unless she has your car keys. She was always home and supervised the party drinking as well

Haha, wow, some people!! And, what's her logic - "oh at least I know he won't drink a drop more than what I give him"?!

Gosh. Goes to show we cannot focus on worrying about the influence of "bad-behaving kids", how about "bad-behaving parents".

(Oh, to answer your question: I have not heard of this but I've heard of parents turning a blind eye to what happens under their roof (drugs, alcohol, etc) because "at least the kids are safely inside my house". I don't agree with that either!)

No, this is not common that I know of! Not a good idea.

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i'm no prude when it comes to this stuff, and i think parents need to be aware and sensible. but that's too young and too lenient.
when i was young you could drink beer and wine at 18. i've always thought it odd that we'll send kids off to fight and die at 18, but hold up our hands in horror at them having a drink.
if he were 18 i'd view it a little differently. but i'd still eye askance actually supplying a teenager, even an older one, with booze.
we have alcoholism rife on both sides, though. maybe without that looming it feels less iffy.
khairete
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Growing up I had a friend who’s parents allowed their teens to drink at home with their friends. Now as an adult, I think that’s a very bad idea! I will not allow my children to drink underage in any capacity and if another parent allowed them to do so in their home, I would be furious.

I hear about the parties. I don't doubt that this happens. I'm sure some parents help supply the drugs as well.