B.B.
That is the natural God given instinct in place. We live in a different society where people are shifting away from this or at least trying to. Moms are suppose to traditionally be the ones to take care of the kids. Men follow God, women follow their husband and children follow their mother. Things are shifting in this day and because women have changed so much, they end up getting emotional about the men and calling them selfish. It isn't selfish if we haven't worked out an agreeable alternative to our natural, innate behaviours and desires. Add logic and thought to it and our desires to care for the kids can sometimes turn into anger because the men didn't feel the same as we did, or give as much as we did, or even know what we expected, or how we wanted them to do something differently. Ask your husband if he even understands your frustration and I bet he will say he may understand part of it, but even if you both use the same words it can have different meaning....men truly are from Mars and women are from venus...haha. Men automatically expect we will take care of our children, but this is how their maker made them to be. We work completely different and unless we have seriously arranged something different, we will naturally go into autopilot....mom takes care of the kids, dad goes to work and expects all the details of the kids to be left up to mom. Talk to your hubby if you need his help. Hang in there and I hope you guys can find a happy medium.
This is coming from a happy mother of 3 beautiful children, and although I have had my rough spots in misunderstandings and communication with my husband I can honestly say I have been very happily married for 11.5 yrs!!! My husband and I trust that we will always try our very hardest to work everything out. This day and age it is easier for most people to just give up on the relationship, but we are serious about ours, we love the Lord and we will do everything to make it right. Our preacher once saidwhen talking about marriage that the way to keeping each other happy is to always be thinking of good things to do for your partner and not about what he is not doing for you, and he must do the same for you. If you both spend time doing this, there won't be a problem. Good luck and God Bless~
B. :)