Staying Away from Ex

I think it's time to question your boyfriend why he's so concerned about his ex. Yes, he needs a relationship with her since they share a child, but his main concern now should be the children and YOU.

If his son wants you to be there, you should go and not worry about this other woman. This is effecting YOUR relationship with the children who might be your step-children someday.

It sounds like she might be manipulating the situation so that you can't have a good relationship with her children. (Although I realize, as a mother, it would be very difficult to let another women into your childrens' lives.)

Go this weekend and enjoy your time with your boyfriend and his son!

while your relationship with his ex is important since they share children, your relationship with the children is just as important and at 16 he can decide if he wants to share this with you and his dad as well as his mom or not, if you have to go alone, it's about being there for him to show your support, not about personal feelings, good luck and it's a happy occassion try to enjoy it.

P.-
I was in a similar situation with my husbands ex-wife, so I will tell you just like I told her....It is about the kids and not about her. If the child wants you to be there then you should be there no matter what she thinks. And if she is with someone else then what is the big deal. If you want my opinion it sounds like it is your boyfriend with the issue and not the ex....

Hello P.. I'm sorry your feeling frustrated. I think you are all adults and can handle this as adults. This is about the children, and as long as everyone involved is part of the children's lives you have to show them how to behave in a loving and civil way. Life is not always what we have planned it to be, but we have to make the most of it in a way that we can be proud and honest to God, our children, and ourselves. I hope your boyfriend understands the fact that you are part of a bigger picture of just the two of you. His children were included in the package of loving him, and his children want you as a part of their lives. Good luck, I hope things work out.

Most people would be glad you are willing to be so involved in their kids lives. If his son wants you there then go!!! I would question why your boyfriend thinks you shouldn't go, that sounds fishy to me.
Good luck and keep us posted.

P.,I fully agree with the other ladies. It's time everyone in this household grew up. Your boyfriend needs to decide where his priorities are for one. If you are the "Love of his life," and he sees that you are making healthy steps to be apart of not just his life and his childrens lives then he should support you. If he is constantly siding with his ex he might as well of stayed with her and let you move on with you life. There has to be peace and middle ground being part of a "blended family",and being a step isn't easy it's a huge struggle because there are a lot of boundaries are what you have right to do with his kids that leaves everyone with dignity and respect.
His kids have invited you to their events and you should be there to encourage them.That's what is healthy for them.She is a grown adult and needs to get over it ,especially since you mentioned she moved on to another man. Your boyfriend has let her know she has the option of having him back by giving her control in this situation. If that's true,then he like I said, he needs to let you move on . If not then he needs to back you up on loving his kids.

Like some of the other moms have said.. and from someone who has been where you are. Something is going on with the boyfriend and the ex, that your bf is not telling you about. Having you in the same room might be busting his game. If I was you, I would be having a serious conversation with your bf. Good luck.

If your boyfriend is still concerned about what his ex thinks, then you got a problem. I agree with all the other responses, if your boyfriends son wants you there, you GO! If your boyfriend has a problem with that, then you need to get another boyfriend. I have been a stepparent for over 13 years and my husband KNOWS that he better not even twice think about what his ex wants. If the ex has a boyfriend, then he can have a girlfriend. Go to the prom and enjoy yourself!

I would be upset that your boyfriend is siding with his ex. She doesn't have the right to dictate your lives. If her son wants you there, and you want to be there, then I think you should support the son. It's not about the ex. It's about the teenage son, with whom you are desperately trying to build a good solid relationship with. If the ex doesn't understand that, too bad. It's HER problem. She needs to find a way to deal with HER issues, without dragging the kids in the middle of it. You & your boyfriend need to put your foot down, and do what is best for your little unit now.

Go. Put on good clothes and cheer for your boyfriends son as he walks by. Show him that you came for him.

The ex needs to realize that you want to love the kids also. Talk to your boyfriend and explain that his son asked you to watch the prom march. If the ex-wife isn't ready to see the two of you together she can look the other way. You are not there for her, you are there for him and his kids.

My ex's girlfriend worked at a daycare, so my kids loved her. At first it was hard to see them be so excited to see the woman he left me for, but then I realized they didn't know that. They just knew she played with them and made their visits fun. Your boyfriend ex needs to get over herself.