We recently had a sweet girl move down the street from us. She is in our sons grade. On the first day of school, she caught the bus with our son. He introduced her to several other nice girls and I told him that we were so proud of him. The last two afternoon, a boy that rides their bus, has been teasing and picking at this girl. Today the boy got in the girls face and motioned with his hands at the girl and said, "You're new. So to break you in, you need to suck my 🐔ick. He kept on the entire way home and made the girl cry. The bus driver saw it, heard it, and did nothing. My son in a fit of rage, jerked him back by the backpack and threw him up against a window. He told him to shut his foul mouth, and to never speak or look at her cross ever again. The boy sat there dumbfounded.
I hardly doubt this is over. We are glad he defended her, but worry about the outcome! Should we report what happened or let the boys handle it?
You should report it! The bus driver witnessed sexual harassment of a minor and did nothing, at the very least.
Sara B. Nailed it. This is sexual harassment and there were witnesses. They must be a policy for this. That is what the focus should be. How old are these kids? This is horrifying, although I must admit I dealt with stuff like thiswhen I was in around 6th. Not quite that bad, though.
Sexual aggression and harassment is not something to let the boys handle. Be proactive in this! The girl's parents need to know. The principal needs to know. The transportation department needs to know what their bus driver is failing to do. The police need to know. I would be extremely upset to know this, and probably a lot more, goes on while the bus driver ignores it! That boy has to be dealt with because his behavior went beyond bullying or picking on. Your son is awesome by the way!
I have a daughter. I hope there is a boy around like YOURS everywhere she goes.
Dunno what you did, but you've done good.
Sure, report it.
:)
Bravo to your son!
Let me say that again, BRAVO TO YOUR SON!
I would definitely call the bus company and report that the bus driver let a boy sexually harass a little girl. There is no excuse for the driver letting that happen.
And then, yes, report it to the school. That boy needs to know that there are SERIOUS consequences for his very SERIOUS bad behavior.
BRAVO TO YOUR SON! HE IS MY HERO!
i love your kid!
khairete
S.
Report it, but be prepared for your son to be disciplined in some way,..
There are zero tolerance rules for " jerked him back by the backpack and threw him up against a window. "..
They may say your son should have asked the bus driver to do something.. rather than handle it himself, But I say, He is awesome and you should be proud of him and even if he gets in trouble you do not care, because he helped her.
Report it so you are on record. Better to be proactive than do nothing OR have your son pulled into it as a participant.
Sounds like you've raised a good boy.
I would report what happened, so it can be clear what the other boy was saying to the girl, that the bus driver heard it and said nothing, and that your son hopefully does not get in trouble for instigating anything. Then maybe they are getting your side of things first, rather than the other boy saying something and then your son has to defend himself. It can't hurt to be proactive, right?
Good for him!
I am the Mom who get all over something like this. The boy who 'teased' the little girl was not teasing ---he was BULLYING. How old are these kids? I'm guessing they are elementary school age kids. How does this bully know this much about sexual behavior? Why does he seem to think it's okay to to talk to a little girl like that?
I'd be on the phone to not only the principal, the manager/owner of the bus company but I would also be calling CPS and the police. This child is seeing and hearing stuff he should not be experiencing.
KUDOS to your son.
I'm with the others in the report it camp. Have your son be honest and tell that he grabbed the kid, pushed him against the window and what he said to him.
Be prepared. The school may take action against your son for putting his hands on another student. (They may also turn a blind eye since your son is basically turning himself in, and he was justified, even if he was wrong.)
Good luck! It sounds as though you're raising an amazing young man. Keep up the good work.
Ditto on all the responses. What a kid you've got! :)
Make sure you post an update.
I think you got great responses already and echo that you should report it. Middle school, right? They need to know and to discipline the boy and the bus driver.
Kudos to your son!
I agree with the people who said to report it. Better your son tell HIS version than the vile idiot bully tell the story as the victim.
Your son seems like a stellar young man all around. Shame on that bus driver for his apathy.
I agree you should probably report it and if your son is reprimanded in anyway then shame on that school.
I hope that you share all of the positive feedback from these responses with your son. Sounds like you are raising an absolutely wonderful young man. Kind of sad that his reaction and jumping to the defense of this girl is "amazing" and not the norm and completely expected.
However, your son was completely in the right for defending this girl. My daughter is 10 and I hope that there is someone on her side just like your son to put nasty, rude, innappropriate boys in there place. I would stick up for him no matter what.
Tell you son a GREAT BIG THANK YOU from all of us moms with young daughters!
Great job to you too. You are obviously doing something right!!!
Wow, kudos to your son!! What integrity!
I would report it. If the kid gets away with it this time, chances are he escalates it the next time.
I CANNOT believe that the bus driver did NOTHING!!! They should be fired on the spot. This is another reason my kid will never ride a school bus.
AFTER READING YOUR SO WHAT HAPPENED:
Glad all this is happening, but I still think the police should be involved, especially after hearing about the sister. There is trouble in their house and things should be investigated. There is a possibility that CPS may need to intervene.
YES, do report this and insist on a meeting with school, parents and police. That vulgar kid is a sexual preditor. You should be proud of your son, but also be careful he too doesn't get hurt or fall prey to a bully or worse DO SOMETHING TOMORROW.
PS...The driver should be fired.
Oh man. I nearly choked because I gasped so hard when I read what you said that kid told the girl.
If you don't get down to the principal's office first thing in the morning, you'll be aiding and abetting this horrible boy. I would be LIVID! I would also call the police. Find out who the girl's parents are and call them and tell them what happened. This poor girl has been verbally abused and terrorized with sexual content and you have no idea what she is going to go through because of this horrible boy.
You and your son need to be on the warpath. This boy needs to be SO SCARED of you and your son that he walks on egg shells where your son is concerned. If I were the girl's parents, I'd have the police over to his house grilling him and the parents, I'd have a lawyer write them a threatening letter, I would tell EVERYONE who would listen what that kid did. And I'd be trying to get the bus driver FIRED.
If you don't want that kid bullying your son next, you will present a HUGE offense. Righteous anger and with both him AND his parents. When parents are humilitated and presented with legal action, they will back down and they will tell their jerkoff of a kid what's what.
The school needs to get the guidance counselor involved for both kids. If I were you, I would call the school board and tell them that they have a potential rapist on their hands and that you will scream to the newspapers and the media if he ends up doing ANYTHING to anyone. They have been warned, and they had better do something proactively to cut this kid off at the pass.
I'm telling you - you cause a stink to high heaven, and that kid will leave your son alone and never speak to that girl again. If you don't? Just wait - he'll find your son alone and either beat your son up, or force himself on your son with his sick fantasies. He's a sex offender in the making, JT.
Get in there and fight, I really mean it.
Dawn
REPORT it.
AND DOCUMENT IT for your own sake and your son's, for your own records.
List the date and times of course, and any other "witnesses" that your son observed etc.
This is for your son's sake, and you as his parent, so that he is not "blamed."
The Offender in this case, of course, is that other boy.
But as you know, innocent helpful kids, can be the one, blamed, instead.
ALSO document, that the Bus Driver, DID NOTHING.
Now, its good your son defended that girl.
I can understand why he was so angry.... after all, the boy was harassing and threatening that girl, on the ride ALL the way home.
But so hopefully, that bullying boy... does not tell others/his parents, that your son.... was "wrong" and lie about the situation.
Because the other thing is, many trouble making kids, do or can lie... and especially to their parents, if they are "caught."
DO NOT LET, your son handle it.
You as the parent, NEEDS to, step in, and SHOW your son.... what "doing something about wrong actions" is. TEACH your son.
And report it and DO something about it.
Because ALSO, if you report it... you are creating a paper trail about the incident... and to protect your son, from any other retaliation... by that boy... IF it happens.
Put things on paper, report it, and "cc" it to other pertinent head Administrators/Principal/Bus Director, etc. as well.
Report it as others have said so the boy he stood up to stops this behavior NOW! Also, it would be SO aggravating if the other boy reports this first and your sone has to defend his actions WHICH I feel were justified. I'd advocate for NO discipline for your son because we WANT people to stick up for others and he did when the adult who is supposed to wouldn't!
The event happened on school property (the bus), so you do need to inform the school. The bus driver should be reprimanded, and the school authorities need to have the detailed information to protect themselves - and your son, too, if it comes down to that.
Yeah I think you should call the principal. I would tell your son's side of the story and say that he thought the bus driver was aware of the situation and felt as if he did nothing, but you are not sure what exactly happened other than your son's account. I am sure your son is being honest about the other boy, it's just that you don't really know what else happened in terms of other kids, bus driver, etc. So yes, report it, but go into knowing you may not have the full story.
Please report it. Don't assume the bus driver reported it. You also want on record your son's side of the story. Your son is a hero.
You've got a very brave and kind son. You don't want anything to further happen and even though your son is defending himself, he get's in trouble also. Do you know if the parents of the girl have called the principal? If so, it may be handled. What a jerk of kid that other one is. If you know her parents, you might want to mention that she was bullied on the bus. Definitely do some follow up on it to make sure someone at the school knows.
