So Lonely...

I had a hard time getting to know people in mom's groups too. My kids always need so much attention, that I couldn't just focus and talk to anyone. I started taking a tennis class at the local rec center and have found it to be a great way to meet people. I've never played before. Maybe there is something like that you could try and meet people. Plus it gives you a little time for yourself, which makes me a better mom when I'm with my kids. Hang in there. It's hard moving to a new city.

Hi T.-

Today I'm a parent coach, but I use to be a Nanny, and I often met wonderful parents at the local Parks & Rec center. I suggest you check out the local indoor park or kids classes.

Best of Luck-

R. Magby

Hi T.,

I feel lonely too, and I have friends here in Portland and have been here for 9 years! But I'm having some troubles at home and that I think is a big part of it for me. I think it's just hard to really connect when you move, because most people have these established lives and routines and circles of friends. They may be welcoming and friendly, but you still might not feel part of their regular life.

Check out the urbanmamas website www.urbanmamas.com, and see if there are some resources there, though a lot of those mamas are working. They also have a relationship with the activistas site, and those mamas are involved in things that you might find interesting and stimulating.

Or, is there someone that your husband connects with at work that has a spouse and little one? Maybe you could have them over for dinner and start up a friendship. You could mention that you're looking for regular activities to do during the day/week. I think it takes a while to establish relationships with others in the mama groups, so I hope you give it more time and keep going.

Best wishes! I like your quote.

I think we all feel like this! We do so much for others, and when it comes time for "me" time, there is no one around to hang out with because they are busy with their families.

Joining a group is good, you can also try talking to people at the store, or going to a place to volunteer, or take a class in something that interests you. Get out as much as you can with and with out the kids.

Good luck!

Hi T.-
~ I can relate! I too am from San Francisco, (although I moved here 9 years ago) but during my time here, I have gotten married, pregnant with twins (they are 4 now) divorced and have been forced to live at moms :( not too mention that I too, am very lonely. I dont know how old your child(ren) are, but if you ever want to hang out, just email me-- Im game :)!!!
N.

Volunteer at the Goodwill Store on Haight. After a month or so, you will have met some new quirky pals and then you can quit.