Hi moms I just started working agian and since I havent had a job in two years I ended up working in the evening. So that leaves the papa in charge. As I already know I am the greater parent and this tasks is going to be overwhelming for him haha just kidding... But seriously I do try to make it easier on him by waking up early and preparing a meal that can easily be reheated within 10-20 mins. something really simple...but when I call to check in Im frusterated to hear that he hasnt served dinner and doesnt think baby is hungry because he has been allowing snacking for most of the day.. I do this because I want them to eat a healthy meal, I feel really unappreiciated,,, How do I get my point across without nagging???
Assuming you do the grocery shopping, only buy Mom approved foods. Sometimes snacking is a healthier meal than an actual meal. If they want to eat celery and pnut butter for dinner there is nothing wrong with that. With obesity in America being what it is, I'd skip the big sit down meal at night anyway. Eating light is the best alternative. Save the good sit down dinners for the weekends when Mommy is home at night.
As long as your child is eating healthy food, it doesn't matter the time or the quantity. In fact, most kids actually eat MORE if they're allowed to 'graze' throughout the day. My kids did this until they were around 3 or so, then they could go longer periods between eating, and eat more in one sitting.
Your husband is a grown man. You married him and had a baby with him. Now it's time to TRUST him. I say as long as the baby is eating healthy food, them just let them be. It's important for dad to feel like a DAD and not just an older child being bossed around by mom. Plus, it'll save you time and effort in the mornings :)
Realize unless you married a demi-god... he's not going to change or listen. Instead... try giving your kids "dinner" for lunch, ditto make breakfast substantial instead of just typical/light. That way they get the nutritious food they need, and dinner can be a wash without it being a big deal.
I've found that picking battles with husbands is even more vital than picking battles with kids.
I feel for you. I'm not sure if my kids would get fed if I didn't mention it. I also have to say what the kids can eat, otherwise there is no telling what he would feed them.
A lot of your situation depends on how old your baby is and what the snacks are. If she is still pretty little then snacking isn't so bad....but eventually she does need to be on a set meal schedule. maybe just have things in the house like cold cuts, cheese, cheerios, fruit and cucumbers. Then she is snacking on relatively healthy stuff and still getting a full meal.
Good luck!
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Prepare some healthy "snacks." How old is your baby?
You and your husband are partners in this matter, just as you are any other time. He's not working for you, any more than you're working for him when you're at home and he's at his job. You're working together.
So the two of you need to get together and have a high-level staff meeting. Work out what is considered a healthy snack, what times are snack times, and what times are meal times. Talk about what kind of things he and your baby would like for dinner. Set a standard for nutrition - together. He's not going to do it exactly your way, but you can work out something acceptable to both of you.
What you don't want to do is treat him as if he were a hired babysitter.
