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Wow, you sound like it is really bad over there. I thought of an idea. It is possible that she wont go to bed because she doesnt want to miss anything. Try to get her up in the morning super early. Then take all snacks out of sight after 6pm, not just for her but for the whole family, and then, the whole family gets NO TV after 9pm... rather they can all read a book and drift off to sleep. If everyone was going to bed... not seperate bedtimes, she may take the news better. It might also help to have DADDY do her bed time. Mommy is a much softer person, who cant take the tough love of the super nanny technique. The daughter knows you love her and will keep up her tantrums because they work on you. If Daddy jumped in there for a few weeks and gave that girl no options... and the whole family went to bed at 9pm, you may all see the light.