J.L.
Hi L..P At 2 1/2 she should no longer be in a crib, I'm going to assume she is not yet potty trained, since she is still in a crib, one of my daycare parents put her 14 month old in his toddler bed, put a guard gate up, puts him to bed, and that's that, she no longer caves in to the tantrums, the crying, by giving into a child sweetie because of tantrums and cryings you are teaching your daughter this how you get what you want. 2 1/2 is old enough to obey at bed time, if she doesn't use discipline, from what i can tell by your post is youre allowing this child to be in control, she controls your sleep and your down time. I hate to say this but what you and your husband are doing goes way beyond patience, you need to get firm, our kids are grown now, but we may have put up with that type of behavior once or twice and that would have been it. Get firm fast. And one mom said she is in her terrible twos, i'm sorry but there is no such thing this is an excuse that parents use to explain un disciplined behavior and bad behavior, we never had sleep issues with any of our children, moms don't make excuses for this behavior, and don't make it an age issue, I've been through these ages already, this stuff that alot of you fall for is not true, and until you realize that, this is what you will deal with. I have heard every excuse here at mamasource as to why kids have sleep issues, tantrums, not being potty trained, getting into things they are not supposed to touch and so much more, but by believing these things are all normal, nothing is being done about it. Alot of things are normal for children to try and get away with, but when you sit back and explain it away, teaches the child nothing. For example we were at a resturant and this little girl I would say was about 3 was throwing a major tantrum and of course people were staring, and the mom said oh she's just tired, and I'm thinking she is displaying a whole lot of energy for some one who's tired. The key to having well behaved children is stop making excuses for the behavior and start training and disciplining. I don't know everything but as a mom for 27 years i do know that Love and discipline go hand in hand. Been there done that. I pray things get better. J.