I've had three pregnancies that made me sick as can be. I have two little girls (middle pregnancy only carried to 11 weeks). There is a good possibility I am going to be pregnant this cycle (not trying but not being careful and ovulation occurred 4 days earlier than usual so our timing is, well, interesting (basing this on NFP method and cervical fluids). If I am I'll be happy since being on the fence about having a third baby is stressing me out (I posted about this a few days ago, my husband is wanting another). So anyway, I've had this fantasy about surprising my husband with ultra sound pics on his 40th birthday (Nov.). It may actually happen. I'v never in 9 years been able to surprise him with any fabulous gifts because of who he is (fanatical quicken organizer and wants to order his own gifts on line because he knows exactly what he wants and which bells and whistles he wants with it) So this is all still fantasy because I'm not pregnant to my knowledge. None the less, if I do do this (even if I miss his birthday) How in the world am I going to pull it off? "Excuse me while I vomit honey." Is it even possible I won't get really sick? If I do this I really want to wait until the first ultrasound since I've actually lost 2 of 4 pregnancies (one was lost really early so didn't have time to make me sick).
Every pregnancy is different, so it is very possible. I had a textbook perfect pregnancy with my son. Felt great the whole time. My pregnancy with my daughter I was so sick for 5 months that it had to be relieved with various medications! Good luck to you!
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Don't hide pregnancy from your husband. No No No....come up with another gift.
I hid my pregnancies from family for a long time. The last one we didn't tell anyone until I was six months. I used sea bands. If you can hide the sea bands or tell them it's some new weight loss thing. LOL! I can't believe I'm encouraging you to lie. Another thing that helped is to drink lots and lots of water with bland snacks. I will be saying some prayers all goes well. I am excited for you.
Surprises are great, but when it comes to pregnancy, Dad should be first to know. My husband would have been offended if he hadn't been first to know. If I had gone to the Dr for an ultrasound without telling him, I feel it would have been dishonest and damaging to our relationship. My neighbor tried to hide her pregnancy from her husband and sadly he found out when she discovered the pregnancy was in trouble. She later miscarried at 12 weeks and this whole ordeal took its toll on her marriage. So if this "fantasy" becomes a reality, give this some thought. Honesty is always best in marriage and other valuable friendships.
Unfortunately, if you were sick with other pregnancies, you are more likely to be sick with this one. Nausea and vomiting is a very good sign of pregnancy health. Research shows that women after age 35 who are experiencing these symptoms in first trimester are much less likely to have a miscarriage than those who sail through first trimester with little to no symptoms and life disruption. That being said, I feel your pain as I too was sick from week 4-14 daily with all 3 pregnancies (but then, thank God they were all healthy). Nurse Midwife Mom
I was not sick or nauseated with my first, threw up once a morning with my second, and was mildly nauseated with no vomitting with my third.
You know your husband and your family best, but I would never be able to wait that long to tell. I could never even wait to go to my doctor after taking a home test. My husband also always wanted to know early because he would be devastated if we lost a child. I know you're worried about losing a child as you said you've lost two already, but would you want to wait and tell your husband after the fact that you're dealing with a miscarriage, or would you rather have him go through that with you? Maybe you could surprise him with something fun about the baby's gender or something like that. That would be a long time to keep quiet about something so important, and if he wants a third he won't want to miss any part of that with you.
I did acupunture through my pregnancy and had a delightful nauseous free pregnancy. My first child. I enjoyed every moment of my pregnancy. I think the acupuncture was the key.
A friend of mine is pregnant w/ #3, and she was sick as a dog with her first two pregnancies (both girls). This pregnancy is a dream for her - she's about 17 weeks now and hasn't even felt queasy. I've told her I think this one is a boy. :) Hopefully this could be your experience, too!
I'm on baby #5, and this one was the worst with morning sickness. I wouldn't be able to pull it off because it's not like you can act like you're not sick! But I LOVE your idea! I hope something works out. Here are some things that I've discovered:
- Eat lots of protein and avoid carbs (other than fruits and veggies). If I eat carbs, it makes me SO MUCH sicker. That means no cereal, bread, candy, or anything. And, usually, there is only one thing I can think of in the whole world that I could possibly eat...so then I have to go on a search for it:-) I have had to force feed the protein because I only crave carbs, though. Weird.
- Get SeaBand bracelets. You can find them on Amazon, I think. They can really help lessen the nausea.
It seemed like there was something else, but I can't remember. I hope you can pull this off...and I hope you're prego with a pregnancy that sticks! (((hugs))) and hopefully congrats!
I had varying degrees of nausea, but found that taking Standard Process' Linum B6 works wonders. I think i took 3-5 of them each day and some friends have taken up to 10 of them. It literally works within 24-48 hours. It's basically a flax-based B vitamin, if I remember correctly, so it stays in your system longer.
The first two(had girls and had no sickness) my 3rd. I was sick the first 3 months. ( it was a boy)
Hope it works for You!!! Best Wishes!!!
You can go through pregnancy wihout being sick. I was lucky enough not to have morning sickness. Although I did have severe sensitivity to smell, and sciatica as I got further along.
Won't offer you counsel on the hide the preg/ surprise with ultrasound question. Enjoy your hubs birthday either way.
I'm currently pregnant with my #3. I felt sicker during this pregnancy than my others, but I don't think this is the case for everybody. You'll just have to wait and see. You could feel great with this one.
