Should I Have Another Baby? - Dallas,TX

I'm an only child.....not for my not trying, but it just couldn't happen......I hated it.......I wanted a sibling so bad.......now my parents are gone and I have no one to look back with about my childhood except people who didn't live in the house.....

So, I say go for it......you obviously want one, and waiting till you can afford one will never happen most likely......18 months is a bit close.....but it would be 9 months......so..........

What does your hubby or mate think about this idea? That's a thought as well......

Good Luck and take care.........I'm so sorry about the loss of your siblings.....I can't imagine how hard that must have been......but you did have them to grow up with......remember the great memories.....

I am so sorry to hear of the losses of your brother and sister. I cannot even imagine how you must feel. I think you've answered your own question. You would love another child, you would love to have siblings for your daughter. You say that you don't want your emotions to over crowd the bigger picture...what is the bigger picture? I know finances are rough these days, but that shouldn't be deciding factor unless you do not feel you can provide the basics for another child. You had so much joy in the short time with your siblings. What is wrong with wanting to give your daughter the possibility of the same gift? (I say possibility because I have 1 brother but he is not speaking to me at this point). As a matter of fact, your post about all the joy you found in your siblings is helping ME decide that another baby might be in OUR cards too!
So a short answer after my novel...Yep...go for it! You sound like a loving and caring mom! =0)
Hugs to you!

I think you should go for it. I have a 3 year old baby and my hubby and I are talking about trying for our #2 next year. (I can't wait) even though I have some fears, but with God's help I will get through it. I love my baby girl and I want her to have siblings. I myself have 2 sisters and 2 brothers (one is next to God watching over us). I love my sisters and my brother. And I want my daughter to experience growing up with siblings. I say go for it and things will work out. Maybe wait a few more months, but you should go for it since this is what your heart desires.

Oh Mama! I'm with Denise all the way! Unless your fella is telling you he absolutely is against it, then GO FOR IT. I felt the same way, I had three in five years and the only reason I stopped when I did was it was clear my husband was NOT on board for a 4th. We had financial struggle, we were wildly busy, we had dark days, but all that passed! I now have three fantastic loved wanted teenagers in a wonderful happy household, bills are paid, all is right with the world. My only regret is not having MORE!!!

As my son reached age 2, I had that 2nd baby craving. That craving would just NOT go away. I decided to have baby # 2 and she arrived when my sone was 4.5. She is the best gift in the world. She is now 2 and my son is 7. Yesterday, my son said, "I really like it better now that I have a sister."

My grandmother passed away while I was pregnant with my daughter and I constantly think and wish that my grandmother could have met her. I'm sure you will feel the same way in regards to your sibling. That feeling won't go away, but life does go on and you will enjoy your children no matter who else is in their lives.

From someone who can't have kids...don't wait for the perfect time..it will never come! If hubby is on board by all means...

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your siblings. You did not mention their ages and if they had children. So I will assume they did not have children. I think that is all the more reason for you to have another child.

Whenever I hear an adult only child talk about growing up they always reference having cousins around. Since your daughter has no cousins (at least on your side) then definetely give your daughter the gift of siblings.

As long as your mate is on board with another child, I would say the sooner the better. Children who are closer in age tend to be closer emotionally as well.

I am so sorry about your brother and your sister! That must be so hard--- my heart goes out to you~As far as another baby, as long as you and your hubby are on the same page-- GO FOR IT! Babies are a blessing- If you can financially, emotionally etc do it, then go for it~ Good luck

M

I conceived my daughter 2 months after my father past away (I was told I would never have kids, but I like to think my father asked our heavenly father on my behalf when he got there) and somehow having her in my life helped me with the loss.
Fast forward 10 years after an unexpected pregnancy and miscarriage last year got us to rethink about having more. We are now active in trying to give our daughter a sibling because we do not want her to be alone after we are gone. So all of that to say this, obviously your heart is speaking to you and you should quit second guessing yourself and just do it!
Good luck and lots of baby dust!