B.C.
I read your May 18th post too. So try something different. BTW, I'm a husband and will give you this man's perspective.
Get the book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands," and the book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage. "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" will go a long way to helping you understand your husband. After you read it, go through it and ask him, "Is this really the way you feel?" on the things you have doubts about. It was an eye opening experience for my wife. The things we had been arguing over for years were explained in the book and she finally was able to understand that many men felt the same way as I did.
Watch the movie "Fireproof" and get the companion book, "The Love Dare." Ask him why he isn't interested in sex or making love. Play "20 Questions" if he is reluctant to talk about it. Ask him why. I read one man didn't make love frequently to his very beautiful wife because, "I didn't want you (his wife) to think that (sex) was the only reason I married you." Many men take it as a show of love if she will make the effort to seduce him.
Weary sexy things around him at home and it always doesn't have to be sexy night gowns. Tell him you are wearing it just for him because you love him. You might even tell him you are open to any suggestions from him on how to spend your evening. If he still needs prodding, get the game, "An Enchanted Evening".
Hope this helps. Good luck to you and yours