Seeking Advice on Alcoholism

No advice. I just wanted to send lots positive thoughts and a huge hug!

Good luck to you!! You CAN do this!

Hi K.,

I too am an alcoholic, sober for 3 1/2 years now. Please know that you can't do this half way. You will most likely need to get care for your children for about a week and go completely off the alcohol. Stopping by yourself is beyond your capabilities at this point. I went to outpatient treatment and stayed with my parents for a week, while I detoxed. The Addiction Assistant Hotline # is 1-800-559-9503.

Also, Avenues Counseling Center
- www.avenuescounseling.org
201 W Louisiana St, Mckinney - ###-###-####

Please let me know if I can help you in any way. You can do this discreetly and no one has to know where you are for the week that you will be detoxing. Your issue, though not insurmountable, will be returning home, where there are triggers everywhere. I would suggest working out. Having friends over. Something to help you with that trigger time. I will send you my telephone number. Please feel free to reach out to me at any time. YOU CAN DO THIS.

I have no leads but I will pray that you find the strength to stop drinking. My father was an alcoholic for over 40 years and one day he woke up like yourself and admitted he had a problem he focused on his family and has not had a drink since. He has been sober for 15 years. 5 years ago I lost the love of my life to suicide and beginning drowning my sorrow and anger with alcohol. One day I woke up and decided it was time to let go and time to admit that I had a problem. I've been sober for 2 years. The first and hardest step is admitting it and you've done that. Congratulations, you are on your way to recovery!!! Just stay strong and remember you have children that need you. Also, here is a little something that you can read when you feel weak and in need of a drink..."God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." I rehearsed those lines every time I wanted a drink. The best of luck and god bless.

My husband is an alcoholic...recovering and sober for almost a year now. He has gone the AA route several times, but he just couldn't get totally plugged in although, the Mckinney group at 1st Baptist Church is excellent. Currently, he goes to Urschel Recovery Group in Dallas. It's literally saved his life. They use medication that blocks the effects of alcohol on the brain. Please let me know if you're interested and I will give you his number.

Good luck

L.

K.,

Hang in there girl! You can do it - with help - but you can. I would like to thank Kelly for her words - they are so true - and right.
I have been clean for well - over 10 years from drugs - I do have a glass of wine once in a while. I really can't tolerate drinking anymore - my metabolism has changed or something!
Just do exactly what your doing - and know that there will be tough days - and EASY days. The help you are seeking is exactly what you need. Just follow the path - you'll find the life you're looking for - He will help!
I will be praying for you as well....if you need a friend - I'm here.

I don't know about a doctor but I do know there is a strong AA group in McKinney off 380 going towards Princeton. I don't remember the street that is at the light near it, but the building is a metal building and the group is strong and supportive. Also, some churches have a Celebrate Recovery group that is for exactly what you are going through. I know our church has Celebrate Recovery at it....I believe it is on Tuesday nights. I go to Cottonwood Creek Baptist off 121 between Lake Forest and Stacy (on Allen side of highway). I know one book that helped my sister greatly was called Paul written by Charles Swindoll. I will pray for you.....Here is my daily pray and reminder that is posted on my mirror for support....

Rejoice in the Lord always, I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present you requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Phil 4:4-7

hi K.
I dont have a name for you but i just wanted to talk with you. To be honest with you, its good that you are seeking help. Your children see you suffering, and you have come to realize that they are suffering through you as well. You are a loving mother, you care for them. Im sure you have your reasons to down the 2 bottles, but understand that, this is just a temporary solution to things. Your children can fill your heart and spirits with whatever is making you empty. Try to find other things to do instead of drink, avoid purchasing the bottles. You are first a mom before anything else. Our children become our priorities and they are true blessings. Take advantage that you have them still and that they havent gotten to that point that you say you dont want them to get to. I hope everything works out for you! I hope that the doctor is helpful to you:) keep your head up K., we sometimes look down and cloud ourselves...

I have three older siblings who have taken different routes to become sober. It is still a constant struggle for them I know, but they have all been successful for more than a year.

One sister went the AA route and has been sober for over 6 years- it will be 7 years on 4/2/09. She still goes to meetings at least 4 times a week and talks to her sponsor often. She had been an alcoholic for more than 30 years and the doctors found a spot on her liver that spurred her on to get sober.

One sister decided to quit cold turkey on her own. She was in a bad marriage and decided she was not going to let her jerky husband get the best of her. She has been sober since 6/12/05.

A brother found God in a big way. He became very religious and also went to a counselor to make the changes he needed. I think his personal bottom was when he saw his kids were continuing his pattern. His wife had also been an active alcoholic until February, 2006 until she quit cold turkey after a cruise we took together. Both of them were really having problems and she asked me why I thought they fought so much. I replied that I thought it had to do with how much they both drank and they would lose perspective when fighting. She quit to save her marriage. My brother didn't quit until November, 2006.

As you can tell by me being able to recall dates of sobriety this really affected my entire family. The siblings are all grown adults (ages 39-51) but their alcoholism affected us all.

If you did AA you would have a sponsor always a phone call away and also within close proximity. Good luck and remember to take it one day at a time.

K.,
I don't have someone for you, but I wanted to lend my support like many of the other moms. People do care. You have taken the first step. Hooray for YOU! Keep that appointment no matter how far it is. Surround yourself with positive people that will help you stay strong. My sister-in-law made the mistake of making friends with other people that were struggling with addiction. I am no expert but if her experience helps you I'd say don't do that. You need strong friends and people who will encourage you in the right direction......I'm betting you know who they are.
Keep that appt and Best of Luck. Your kids are lucky to have a mom that wants to be better for them.

I'm not an alcoholic, but my sister has been sober for many years now and did it with the help of AA. She went to the best rehabs money can buy, but what ended up working for her was AA and a caring sponser. Maybe it would work for you, too. If not, keep trying until you find something that does. Your children are worth it and so are you! I'll pray for you. I know with so many people praying for you and your courage and strength you will beat this addiction.

I have no real advice here, but just wanted to send you a great big pat on the back for acknowledging your problem, and for seeking out help in anyway that you can! That is the sign of a good mom!! You are teaching your kids that you have made mistakes, but that you can get help, and improve! Just hang in there, for yourself first, and then the kids! I hope you find the help that you need, I would also encourage you to seek counseling for the children, this is going to be tough on them too! Hold your head up high and keep on going...each day will get better!! Be strong! ~A.~