Seeking a Child Psycologist

Hi F.:
I can sympathize with your situation. I went through a divorce,when my sons were 7 and 9. You'll receive many responses from those who strongly believe that remaining miserable,rather than having their children live through the experience of an unsuccessful marriage,is the answer. However,they have no knowledge of your circumstances,or what your feelings are.Its regretable,yes but the question is,are the children better off amidst a home life of turmoil and unhappiness? When I sat my boys down to tell them of their father and my plans to part ways, I expected them both to break down in tears. To my amazement,my 9 year old replied "Its About TIME" Children this age,are far more observant than we realize.They understand more than we know.I have to assume you are seeking help for the eldest. Your three year old is far to young to converse with,or recieve help from a Dr.He only recognizes that his father isn't living under the same roof.I don't quite understand why you feel it a must to seek a Psycologist. It is very normal for your son to act up or appear to respond differently to things because of the break-up.Hes going through mixed emotions just as you are right now. You must Allow him some time to adjust to the changes taking place. A Psycologist would give your son the impression,that there's something psycologicaly wrong with him,and (there's not.) As long as you keep the lines of communication open and allow him to talk to you about his feelings,you shouldn't need a Dr. If you are insistent about your son speaking to someone,then allow him to speak to a therapist. He is less apt to feel as though you believe his feelings are unfounded,and he may better welcome the idea, of confidencial conversations with someone like this.The idea, is to (help) your son.If hes going to have to be concerned about an individual exposing his inner most feelings,then all has been in vain. I wish you and your darlin children the best.F., Please remember,while they may be young,they experience sorrow,and grief just as you do.They may do it differently,but they do just the same.

theres a place off of hospitality but man for the life of me i cant think of what its called. i went there and its very relaxed for children. good luck i know this is tough on you all.

F., you might try Sr. Pat Hare, she a catholic nun,and excellent psychologist her office is located at Community Hospital in San Bernardino.

F., I want to give you credit for knowing what you needed to do, even if it meant separating from your husband. Sometimes things just don't work out and I am of the thought that if you have really, really tried to make it work and it just doesn't, you should not stay in an unhappy marriage. Dr. Beth Mc Guire is in Redlands and I have taken one of my sons to her. I really liked her!