Hello J.,
Marriage takes work, especially when it is a blended one too. \''/
I've been in that boat. Right now, it's about keeping family together! You have to make the time to sit with hubby and communicate with one another about EVERYTHING!!!!....including your feelings. How else will he truly know how you feel (vice versa). Going to school is only temporary and will not last a life time. You have kids in the picture and you don't have time to waste cause the clock IS ticking. You have the opportunity to work really hard and look to advancing even your working skills (if needed). Kids are expensive and need things. Most importantly, they need their mom and dad. We had to make a lot of sacrifices and have learned from them. Life IS a learning experience!!!
So, keep on doing what you are doing. If you feel over worked, then you may need to adjust things regarding your work schedule, but you and the hubby need to communicate.....after all, you both are bringing in the money to support your kids. Marriage takes two, so.....communication and planning together is extremely important.
Okay. 3 kids and bills....prioritize. I really feel that you and the hubby need to get together soon for a date! I can't emphasize how important it really is to have a date. YES a date with your husband. How did you meet? (don't tell me).....how did you look when you 2 met? You really need to ask yourself those types of questions and get out on a date, just the two of you. NO kids allowed. You 2 need alone time. I always dress up for my hubby when I get the chance, which is most of the time. Sure he see's me with no makeup, but he also see's the real me too. Just be real with one another. I will tell you this much. Your hubby will disappoint you. There is no one on this earth that is perfect. My hubby and talk about the day we met and I love to do that because it feels like it happened yesterday. I've been with him for 17 years. It still feels like new. Sure we have our disagreements, but I am still crazy about him. Like I said....communicate fully with one another! The first few years will be a learning experience for you 2 as a couple, but really sit down and learn what he really likes, and let him know what your dreams are for the future. You can plan for things to happen in your life, but there are things that life will throw at you. With your husband at your side, you will grow through it all!
Take Care!