Pre K Er Has Bully Problems at School Aready

My daughter had a bully problem when she was in Kindergarten. She was hit, pinched, pushed, etc. I told her to ask the girl to stop. It escalated to more often. I went to the teacher and told her about the problem and the teacher kept a closer watch on the situation and did a better job of keeping this girl away from my daughter. From my experience bullies only bully people that they want to be more like. Your daughter is sweet and kind and it's causing her to be picked on. Tell her to stand up for herself. If someone is picking on her, tell her to say in a loud voice, please leave me alone, if nothing else this will get the teacher to take notice that there is a problem.

Just let your little girl know that not all girls are like that and she will find some nice freinds. Let her know that she dont want to be freinds with girls like that. Maybe you should talk to the little girls mothers just to get some insite in why they act like that. If it keeps happen maybe you should ask the teacher to split the girls up for a while.
We see this so much these days and it like the teachers and pencipals dont do nothen until someone gets hurt.
Good luck!
DES

People on this site may not agree with what I have to say but I got this advice from my mother when I was a kid and I was bullied. I only had to use it once in my life. See said to tell the child real loud like like one poster said please DO NOT PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME AGAIN OR I WILL BE FORCED TO DEFEND MYSELF.

You see you don' t want you child to be afraid of anyone. YOu don;t want her to be afraid to go to school. I am not encouraging fighting but sometimes in life it just has to happen. So teach her to defend herself with words first and fist, kicking whatever it takes. Even if she gets bruised that first time she won't be afraid the next. Fear is a mf. I had the same problem with my daughter who just started kindergarden. The first few weeks of school she would come home crying because a little boy was picking on her. She talked to my mother she did what she was told next time it happened and she has not said anything since. So that is my advice.

B.,

My daughter had this same problem in Pre - K with a little girl that just seemed to want to target her. I talked with the teachers and it was still happening. I then told Megan to turn around at the little girl and say real loud leave me alone! This worked and the picking on faded away. Before all was said and done with Megan sticking up for herself and the teachers doing a more closer watch her and the little girl ended up being friends. I dont know if this will work for your daughter but It really helped mine.

B. -
You've done the first part already - take her very seriously. School bullying is a serious problem that statistically begins in lower elementary. Take a look at this website for statistics on School Crime and Violence - http://www.safe2tell.org/thefacts.html . This is a non-profit group I used to be a part of. Anyway - back to the situation at hand -
1) Encourage your daughter to tell someone EVERY time it happens (whether it's you or the teacher)
2) Divide and Conquer - cliques at this age are usually formed based on the common interest of the children's parents (not the actual kids themselves). Call one of the mothers of the girls and set up a fun girlfriend date for the two girls ( a movie, or a manicure- basically something to brag about to the other girls) - it'd be great for you and the mother to hang out too.
3) Don't worry too much - most likely in a month or two it'll be a different kid and a different clique. Just let your daughter know that it's more important to be a supportive friend than the leader of a clique (prob too much at this age, huh?).
Good Luck!!