Potty Training Trouble - Brooklyn,NY

Have you tried buying some brand new books and sitting with her to read. Some kids just don't want to take the time to sit there to go. There are a few things you can do, refuse to put the pull ups on and hope she doesn't hold back, try a reward system, or just give her more time. You said you work does she go to daycare? What does she do there? Are they assisting you in the process? The reason I ask is because I own a daycare center and do not use pull-ups at all for potty training. I have trained hundreds of kids and find pull-ups to just be a glorified diaper. I work with the parents and we use cloth training pants at home and at school for consistency. Together with the hard work of my staff and their moms and dads we have kids trained in a weeks time. The kids go together as a group ever hour or so. We do have accidents but once they feel their underwear wet they do not like it and train very quickly. I think as long as she has the choice she will opt for the pull-up. Most moms, and doctors will say not to force the issue, I guess I am old school I know it can be done and it is most times just a control issue. Make sure to make a big fuss when she does go. At school we do the potty dance and the kids love it. They come to my office for stickers and to get a big hug for doing such a great job. We sound like fools but the kids love it. Funny story, I once had a 4 year old who was home with his mom for the summer and still would not potty train. When he came back in September I couldn't place him with his age group because there were no changing facilities in the classroom so he had to go with the younger kids. His mom knew, he knew and he just didn't care. So we put underwear on him and he didn't like it at all so he would sit in his chair and just pee. I would go to the classroom get him and have him change his own clothes. He was so smart he knew how many change of clothes his mom brought and that is how many accidents he would have CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS KID!! It was a real power struggle. So I would never let him know I had extra clothing. He was a little wise guy so when I would go to the classroom to get him to take him to the potty he would look at me and say WHAT DO YOU WANT NOW!! As much as he was disrespectful I would have to hold back from laughing. I am just as stubborn so we were a great match. I would sit on the floor of the bathroom and tell him we will sit together until you go on potty. He knew he was missing class and the fun activities and just didn't care. After a few days of accidents and sitting in the bathroom he finally went (he knew I wasn't going to give up). He turned and looked at me because I was ready to sing and clap and pointed his little finger at me and said DON'T YOU TELL ANYONE!!! Tell me that is not a strong willed kid. He did not want the praise he wanted to stay a baby. His dad would carry him in daily wrapped in a blanket like a baby. I AM NOT KIDDING!! We trained him and was able to move him to the 4 year old classroom. Point is if I didn't push him he would never have done it. His mom and dad knew everything I was doing and were so grateful for me putting the time it to help them. To this day I remember this child because he was truly a character. I know I got off track but I just wanted to point out that sometimes its just a power struggle and we are the stronger force as parents. She is still young but it you can stand the mess throw out the pull-ups put on cloth training pants (they are thicker for accidents so less mess) and keep her in those until she goes. Good luck and Happy Holidays!!

i would try switching to underwear full time. every time she has an "accident", she still has to go sit on the potty, at least for a moment (even if she's already done). if she's willing and able, have her change her own clothes.

My daughter was the exact same way for a long time. She would come and get me to put on a Pull-Up when she had to go #2. I would always ask her if she wanted to go on the potty, and she said no. I decided not to make a big deal out of it, and right after she turned 3 she said "I'm a big girl now so I can go poopy on the potty". She's been 100% trained ever since.

She seems like she's not ready, it's a power struggle and a control thing...She will do it when she's ready. Mine did the same thing. When i backed off and didn't talk about it as much she seemed to do it when she was ready, Good luck and have patience!

Two things helped us: we told our son to listen for the "plop" of teh poopie (he loves music, and it puts things back in his control). And, when he did go (or I'd let him flush after I went), we'd say "Bye, bye, poopie, see you next time!" Kids are at a stage where they're confused by what's permanent, if they lose a part of themselves is it okay, etc. These were two rituals that helped him through!

A couple of months before my son turned 3 he decided that we did not want to wear diapers anymore. He was fine with urinating but usually pooped in his pants at first. SOmetimes he'd ask for a diaper when he needed to poop. One day I decided to hang a "poop chart" near his potty. I told him if he wanted to poop on the potty he could put a stamp on the chart. For some reason ever since then he went on the potty. After about a month he did not care about the chart anymore but still uses the potty.