Potty Training - Need Help.

When you are potty training, let him walk around in the house with no underware or diaper. My sister did this and it worked. Yes, he had a few accidents, but within a few days he was going in the potty all the time!
Good luck!

I know how you feel. With my 5 year-old I started potty training when she turned two. For that whole year we struggled with the same issues. After all that struggle, I did the one-day method about two weeks before she turned three and BOOM, she was potty trained. My advise is to back off until he's close to 3 and then try the potty training in a day method.
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You don't really need to buy the whole system, but I really like their underwear.

Dear K.,
I had the same problem too but you know it's like doctors say they will go at their own time you can have the little toilet for them but until they feel ready they won't go. Mine surprised me one day when i was passing through the bathroom and I actully saw him on the big toilet sitting down doing his thing. I was sooooo happy we (our whole family) applaused him and gave him candy and the next time when we wanted to go again we (the whole family) ran in the bathroom with him and cheered him on and HE DID IT we did this for about 3 days and then he was on his own.

Good luck and be patient,
R.

I just got this tip today from a website I subscribe to.

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Potty training doesn't have to be a frustrating experience for either you or your child. Listed below are some quick guidelines:

Little children copy what they see their parents doing. That’s why it's so important to let your tots see you using the potty…and having a good time doing so. (While this may be a bit embarrassing for some, the results are well worth the discomfort.)

Offer lots of choices. For example, "Do you want to use the upstairs potty or downstairs potty?" "Do you want to bring your favorite toy or leave it in your room?" The more small choices we give, the less resistant our kids will be.

Remain calm and empathetic when accidents happen. Punishment never works when it comes to potty training.

Allow your child to train at their own pace. Some kids are ready before they are two years old; others aren't ready until they are around four. When we try to force the issue before our children are ready, frustration is all we will achieve.

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I wish I had used this info with my first 4 kids, I'm starting with number 5 who will be 2 at the end of the month. The more you push the less likely you are to have success.

Hang in there K.! I have a 4 year old that at 2 1/2 and 3 years old would sit on the potty forever (having some small successes now and then) but then would go in his pants and so as you would take him off the potty. We had stickers, a small prize box with cars in it that he knew he would get to pick from if he went on the potty. I fifugred there was no hope and his doctor saying he wouldn't be in college and still not using the potty didn't make me feel better. One week we ended up getting him to go once a day for a couple of days in a row. He finally loved the fact he got stickers and a prize and he took off from there and started going on his own. We still have some "oopsies" now and then, but like all those people said to me before, he'll go when he's ready...sure enough he did. Hang in there, once he decides that he's ready to do it he will and then you'll be so happy!

Hi K.,

Just relax. Even 3 1/2 is not too old to potty train for a boy. I would just keep him in pull-ups and don't make too much of an issue for him because it could become a power-and-control thing. He's at an age where he's testing independence and if you want him trained too much he'll use that to show independence by not doing it.

V.

Too young. That day care provider should know better! Most boys are way too young at 2 1/2 to be potty trained. I used to be a day care provider, and I am also the mom of 4 boys. Put your son back in Pull-Ups, don't make him do any more time on the toilet, and don't think about potty training again until he is at least 3 or 3 1/2. If you wait until a child is ready, "potty training" is soooooo easy! And not much training is involved. If you try to force them into it too early, it is a big ordeal for everyone.

Maybe he is not ready. Potty for a young child is a control issue. All of mine potty trained themselves around 3 to 3 1/2. (I have 4) Except for my youngest who we are still struggling with it, she is 3 1/2. (she also has a spectrum disorder which makes it harder) I think (and this is only my opi.) Give a break for awhile and then go back to it. Unless this is an issue with his preschool. Like I said it is only my opi. Potty training should never be an issue or battle. As everyone always told me , they will not graduate high school and still be wearing diapers!

Hi K.,

I would try placing him on the potty first thing when he gets up in the morning and about 30 mins. after a meal (breakfast, lunch etc.) It could also be that he's not ready to be potty trained.
With my son we watched this DVD called, 'Potty Power' and it helped him catch on to potty training real easy. Not only does it teach going to the potty, but why they don't wear diapers anymore and how to wash your hands after going potty. My husband and I really liked the DVD. I was able to borrow it at my local library.

Hope all works out!

Hey K., i have seen this problem before, in most casest i have seen unsucessful potty traing is usually more about the parents than the child. I too am a daycare provider with 11 years experience, but i have been a mom for 24 years. Potty traininghg like anything else there has to be reward and dicsipline, when I started potty training my first he was 20 months old, by 21 months he was pottytrained by 2 he was standing up using the toilet, I had a really pretty see through jar that i put a ribbon on and decorated it and filled it up with m&m's and put the jar up on the wall unit, in plain few of my son, everytime he went potty he got a coupl m&m's if he had a bowl movement he got a little hand full, when we first started if he didn'y go right away i let him get up well 10 minutes later i don't have to tell you what happend, I made him change his own pants, and the next time i put him on the potty i made him sit there 10 minutes longer, well he loved watching the price is right, so i let him sit on the potty to watch the price is right, well in an hour something always happened and he got rewarded, so not only at the age of 20 months my son was being potty trained he also started learning to reconize his numbers by watgching the price is right, I only spanked him one time, we were in the kitchen he straddled hi feet a peed on the floor i swated his little behind and he never did that again, by 21 monts he was completely potty trained day and night, i learned that most kids will do what ever they know there is no consequiences for, so I believe in reward and discipline, if he does not have to go he does not have to go, but if he is going right after he is let up I say let him sit on his thrown until he does go. Mother for 24 years J.

Put him back in diapers and wait; he's not ready yet. Some children, especially boys, take longer. Pushing the issue will just cause other issues and frustration for both of you.
good luck

i would reward my daughter with stickers every time she was successful. she was potty trained in no time!

I would suggest giving the training a break for a period of 3-4 weeks and try again. It's just not worth battling over. It will make you both crazy.

M.
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It sounds like he is exerting some new found control over life and is exerting it. There's nothing wrong with this trait, it just isn't helpful here.
My own daughter was very, very headstrong and when she did this we tried all the stuff too. One day she pooped in her pants. I didn't scold her or say a word, I just put her into the bath tub and washed her with the first water that came out.
Of course it was cold and she got the idea right away. We were simply going to take care of it and not make it the subject of a tug of war.
I hope this helps. I have advised many Moms about this over the past 25 years!

Hi, I just recently potty trained my youngest son. So here is some advice...Do not get discouraged, He will pick it up.My first son was easy to as pie to potty train and I thought it would be with my youngest son. I was wrong. so I read books and asked other mothers, doctors and child care providers on how to help with potty training and nothing seemed to work. Then one day he wanted to wear underpants ( I kept them where he could reach them so if he wanted to try he could), and I told him if he was going to wear big boy underpants then he has to go in the big boy potty. He did all that day although he has had some "accidents" he is pretty much potty trained. I would just let your son decide on when he truely wants to start going on the potty. Let him pick out "his" potty chair and ALWAYS reward him when he tries even if nothing happens. I hope a little encouragement helps you knowing that it happens to other moms too. :)

I don't know much about potty training, but I will share what I have experienced. I have 2 boys, one just turned 3, the second is almost 2. The second is nowhere close, but I watch him closely for signs of readiness. My 3 year old just potty trained a few months ago. I tried when he was 2 1/2 because he showed some signs of readiness, but I gave up after only one day. I waited a few months until it seemed obvious to me that he was ready, then I put him in underwear and that was the end of it (except naptime and bedtime). He had only one accident on the second day when we were out of the house. The same with bedtime. It was just a month ago and I felt he was ready so we told him he didn't need diapers at all anymore and put him in underwear at bedtime. He had one accident the second night and none since. He was a little late as a potty trainer, but it just seems like, when he was ready, that was it. My sister told me it was the same way with her daughter. She tried several times after her daughter turned 2 and it just wasn't working. So she gave up and tried when she was 3, then it clicked and that was it. My mom also told me that my two younger brothers didn't potty train until 3, but with us older kids she always potty trained us at 2 years. I have heard that many children, especially boys, are not ready until 3. Since your son is still 2 1/2, maybe he's just not ready - I know that is probably not what you want to hear. Your daycare provider has a lot of experience, so I would ask her advice. And hopefully the other moms will have some good pointers for you.

Your son is way too young to be worrying about using a toilet. Why are you rushing it? For sure, he's not going to high school in diapers. BTW, if you have a control freak for a child among the areas that he will most likely try and engage you in are food and bathroom issues - so be extra aware of your own control issues. Don't get into a battle of wills with a 2 year old, trust me they'll win. Back off and try again when he's ready, not you, or the daycare. Good luck.