Potty Training HELP!!!!! - Saint Paul,MN

If she wets the bed at night and naps, then you either have to put on a pull up or diaper or some other cover, or go with panties and a mattress cover to spare the bed. I'm still putting diapers on DD because though she does pretty well the rest of the day, she just can't get up in time to pee at night yet. One step at a time.

A friend used temp tattoos. If his son was dry all night, then he got a tattoo of some cartoon character to wear that day. If they had a REALLY bad day, Dad got rubbing alcohol and it came off. You could do a similar reward. On days when I saw the kid covered in tattoos, I knew it had been a good day and noticed them to reinforce that he was doing a good job on the potty.

I don't know if it would help you, but things we do:

We tell her to use the potty after she wakes up, before bed, before bath, before/after meals. I will sit and read a book or she can take a book with her. If she fights me, I remind her that she's wearing x panties today and we do not pee on (ponies, elephants, bears, whatever).

I try not to be too angry, as she's still learning. I did get upset when, after she'd done well for a week, she pooped, tried to hide it/clean up by herself and got it everywhere. That was not my finest moment. And when she runs around without her pants or underwear after using the potty, sometimes that is very frustrating, too.

I tell her accidents happen, we need to clean up, let's try again. When we had a day where she peed through EVERY pair of clean panties I had for her, I put her in a diaper. She protested and I said that there were no clean panties because she'd had so many accidents. That seemed to get her attention because after that she said, "I won't pee in my panties. I don't want diapers any more!"

So, basically, hang in there. It's a process but she'll get there. I thought I'd never see DD use the potty like this but DH just told me she used the big toilet downstairs all on her own. It'll get better.

Maybe not giving a drink an hour before she goes for a nap or bedtime?? This is what I do. Maybe it might work! Good luck!

You have some great advice from other moms so just wanted to add a question. Have you had her checked for anything medically wrong? My daughter had a similar problem at that age and it ended up to be that she didn't show any physical signs of a UTI until it was very inflamed. We eventually figured it out and was a struggle to test to make sure it was that and not a vaginal infection. Basically she didn't want to pee because it hurt so she would hold it. Hopefully this is not the case in your situation but just wanted to mention it. Good Luck!

1. Don't get mad.
2. Put pull-ups on top of her underwears for night time and naptime.
3. Watch the Potty Power DVD with her.
4. Limit drinks before naps and bed and make sure she goes pee right before napping and sleeping.
5. Put the mattress cover on so it's not a big problem.

It'll pass. It might take a really long time before she is perfect at night. As in months. Be as patient as possible. Be matter of fact about it, not happy of course but not mad. She's 3. She's not doing it on purpose to upset you. I am not saying this to judge you, I have been through this with both of my kids, and I know it can be frustrating.

Well arguing with her wont help. Take a few days off and let her be in a diaper or a pull up. Then take a deep breath and start slow. When she wakes up in the morning have her sit on teh potty. Not the big toilet because that scares a lot of kids. Get the potty book. Its a red book that explains about it and rewards her. Read it with her in the morning while she is on the potty. Sit for 15 minutes. If she doesn't go dont make a big deal put her in a pull up or a diaper. When its time for nap put her on the potty again for 15 minutes this time give her a book to look at. Sit with her. Just stay relaxed.. Do same for bed but put a diaper backon her for bed. When she finally goes in the toilet hug her and say hurrah and give hre a reward. If she doesn't just let it go when she is ready she will.