I did have the potty for a very short time...I kept coffee filters in it in case it was "#2" so it'd be easier to dispose of (I was kinda squeamish, I have to admit). I kept the potty in the living room because it was central to wherever we were. That way we could hurry and pull his shorts down and go as fast as possible. We didn't use a book, we used Elmo's Potty Time DVD. He loves Elmo though; as he started listening to Elmo and learning to go to the toilet, we bought him a Hokey Pokey Elmo as his friend to play with (and to remind him of the DVD, so if he was playing with or around Elmo he could think if he needed to go or not). We got him an Elmo seat that goes on the "real" toilet, and he'd watch us go to the bathroom as well. He took it pretty seriously for a 2 year old, though we were laid back with him. One time, he missed and didn't get to the toilet in time. Both of us were there, and his dad was handling it. I heard him say "Oh, that's ok, you can try again next time", so I went to bring a new pullup to them. My son looked kind of grim and disappointed, and we assured him it'd be ok and it takes practice. He walked over to the TV silently and handed me the Elmo's Potty Time DVD, then pulled his little chair right up to the TV to watch again. He was trained pretty quickly (daytime). I let him use pullups instead of underwear because his personality is just one that puts enough pressure on himself (I was like that too, perhaps still am)....I didn't want added pressure of underwear leaking if it was a developmental issue. However, I noticed that once he was doing pretty good at trying, I bought a few packs of underwear. He was ambivalent about the Thomas the Train underwear, but when I got him the super heroes underwear, he was very serious about not having an accident. We did have to put him in pull ups for his naptime until he was 3, and he just got out of pull ups at night a few months ago, at 4. We tried underwear so he'd learn, but the fact is he was a hard sleeper and would just wake up upset, but simply couldn't wake up even after he was wet, until his normal time. I tried waking him up myself in the middle of the night (when up to feed the baby) but that just really wasn't beneficial. I hated interrupting his sleep cycle and noticed his mood was not as nice when I did that. NOW he's successful; we go immediately before bed and immediately after waking, and he's fine. But very occasionally, I hear him around 3am go potty, flush, and back to bed. That's a really big deal for him. We finally allow a nightlight in his room and one in the bathroom so he can feel confident about getting up and to the toilet "just in case". I'd suggest the Potty Time video not only because the kids like it, but because it kinda helps you keep the right frame of mind too....accidents happen, just keep trying. (Sometimes, you'll be tempted to get agitated or worried because someone else is learning faster than your child.) I've also learned by watching others that if you push too hard too early, then when you're not around a child will have "potty issues". All in all, it's really just about learning your child and her needs, her personality, and working with her to succeed. Does she need an incentive (I gave mine 2 M&Ms for pee and 4 M&Ms for poo, but I dunno if it was incentive or reward), does she need a little more pushing, etc....that's all stuff that is really as individual as your child is.