My son is going to be 4 on 11/15 he for the most part has going to the bathroom down he of course still has accidents once in awhile but the one thing I cant get him to do is poop in the toilet. I pay close attention then when I know when he has to go I have him sit on the toilet well let me tell ya we could sit there all day he holds it and wont let go. I need some advice on how I can get him to be poop trained??
Hey everyone thanks for the great advice we have finally had a huge breakthrough One night I caught him pooping in the bathtub and hurried and put him on the toilet, well the majority of it went in the tub but a piece did end up in the toilet. I made a big huge deal about it and told him that the next night we would try to get all of it in the toilet. We tried the next night when I knew he had to go and to my suprise he went so I made an even bigger deal about it and told him the next day he could go to toysrus and pick out a toy. He was so excited when we got to the toy store and he picked out something very special to him a huge tool set. I was however dissapointed last night when after I put him to bed and he had his pullup on he did poop in that so im not sure how to deal with that.. But thank you everyone for your advice!
My best friend had troubles with this with her son, and it turned out another kid at daycare had told him that the toilet would bite his butt if he sat down on it. You might want to see if he's afraid of the toilet or something.
I had "poo poo prizes" for my 3 year old. I showed her all the prizes and explained that each time she went #2 in the toilet, she would get to choose ONE item from the prizes. It's VERY important that you do not give out any of these prizes for any other reason except poo poo. At first she tried to go just to get a prize which found her on the toilet grunting when she didn't have to go. So be prepared for that. He cannot be rewarded for trying. He has to produce. Also, be prepared for fits when he can't pick more than one item. There must consistency. Once he learns the rules he will know what is expected of him in order to get a prize. Rules are: 1. Poop. 2. Get ONE prize.
After he goes make a real BIG deal out of it. Also, it is good to show him your poop and be excited that you went. Do not be afraid to show him your toilet paper and how to wipe. I know that is graffic, but how else is a kid supposed to learn except by example. A ritual we began after pooping was saying , "Bye bye poo poo, go swimming"as it was flushed. My daughter got the biggest kick out of being able to send the poo poo swimming since she herself loves swimming. Then it is time to pick out a prize.
I went to the Dollar Store and stocked up on things she really loved. Good luck and have fun, D. :)
I read somewhere that sometimes kids can be nervous about pooping in the potty because they feel like it is a part of themselves that is going to go down the drain. Maybe you could try explaining to him about how the digestive system works (very simplified). That we eat food and our body takes all the good stuff out of it and then the poop is all the extra stuff that our body didn't need, kind of like garbage. Explain that we throw the garbage away because we don't need it any more and it is icky and that is exactly like poop, only poop goes in the potty instead of the trash can.
also, I have read a lot of people on this website talking about a book called potty training in one day. I've never tried it, but I read the synopsis on Dr. Phils website and it sems pretty cool. It involves having a potty party for one of his stuffed animals, but you could make it a poo-poo party to be more specific.
Not sure what else to tell you. If he's four it is just a matter of time before he gets sick of having poop in his pants. Does he wear pull-ups or underwear? Does he go to daycare to see other kids doing it? (monkey see, monkey do)
Good Luck!
I read in a good child rearing book that some kids feel like they are losing a part of themselves or their body, and it scares them to let go of a part of themselves to flush away and never be seen again! Stange but true! So, you can stand there after you poop and both of you wave bye bye to your poopie. That way he will get the game and not be afraid to let go of something from his body.Bye bye poopie and wave away! I also tried the training toilet in a semi- private part of the living room or what ever room you all hang out in the most the experts say. I put his training potty in a corner between the wall and the sofa arm. He got books to read/look at, and I gave him bribes of those chocolate substitutes. It is called:" St. Johns Bread" or? Anyway they have these cute world map foil globes of the chocolate substitute in bulk areas of health food sections at stores or health food stores. I bought a little bag. If he pooped on the potty or toilet, he got one. Trust me it worked great! If his hips and butt are small, make sure you use a toilet training seat on the toilet seat, as he could really be afraid of falling in and getting flushed away himself! Stay with him the first few times so he knows that will not happen with you there. Thats all I can think of.
