Poser on Facebook

why does it matter?
if you think she'll lie to you, keep a distance. anyone could lie to you. i don't understand why you want to call her out for things that don't affect you at all.
khairete
puzzled S.

You don't know this woman well enough to decide whether she is friend material or not. Neither do you know the motivation of her "tall tales." I do agree, however, that it's wise not to mix FB friendship with work.

I would just quietly unfriend her and never trust her.

Just realize this person is not friend material and seperate yourself. Calling out her lies only serves to drag you into her world. You know you can't trust her word, so move on from her. If it were me, the friendship would go no further with her.

I don't have my actual town on FB or this web site. I'll put the closest major city because I prefer not to advertise where my family and kids live.

I don't think you need to separate yourself from her, or call her out on it. If it were me I'd just be grateful I realized this about her before our friendship grew. Just know that you have to take everything she says with a grain of salt and can not trust her with anything too personal. This will naturally prevent a friendship from growing.

I'd approach it with some amusement. What crazy thing will she say next? Sounds kind of fun :)

I can see her not putting exactly where she lives on FB. But making up stuff? Something's wrong with her. She is evidently trying to impress people who don't know her true life, and doesn't really care if people who DO know see her lies. Something's wrong with someone like that.

I'd go ahead and drop her as a facebook friend. Do it without comment. At this point, she hasn't done anything to YOU. She hasn't lied to you about anyone else or lied about you to other people. (That you know of...) She hasn't treated anyone badly. That would be your real litmus test as to whether or not to tell people about her behavior. Treat her as a colleague only and don't share your life with her, including not going places outside of work with her. Don't talk about her to people at school either - THAT is what will spur her to lie about you to them. Let her be just another person at the school and act professional only. If she asks why you dropped her on FB, tell her that you have decided to keep work and friendships separate.

I don't friend colleagues on Facebook.
There are networking sites for business.

This is one of the many reasons I do not have FB. I am a very private person and wouldn't want to explain to people why I didn't friend or I de friended them. Who has time for the drama?

I will not be friends on facebook with coworkers. Even the ones that sit right next to me that I talk to all day. I don't want things I say to end up back at work, even though none of it is ever that bad.

I will friend them after I've left that job, but not while we're working together. If I were you, I would hide her posts and keep her from seeing mine, since defriending her would possibly cause drama.

I see this a lot....but with 6th graders on Instagram. A few of my daughter's friends have posted huge lies because they want to look cool or important...again they are 6th graders....

If she's doing this as an adult, she has a problem. You can either unfriend her you can just unsubscribe to her posts. She will still be on your friend list, but you won't see her posts.

I would just hide her posts. Facebook drama isn't worth the angst.

IRL, I would continue to be her friend, just know that she has a tendency to try to make her life seem more important/exciting than it really is.

Sometimes, people like this simply have a low self-esteem, and they seek attention by pulling stunts like this. The flat-out lie would bother me, but I would be more curious to find out WHY she is being like this before making any decisions about continuing the friendship.

First, I would NEVER "friend" a co-worker!! Too many things can go wrong. Plus, I don't mix my work and personal lives - I would not want my co-workers to know about my family and personal life. I keep my FB to only a few very close friends and family members.

As to your question, I would separate myself from her ASAP!! She obviously does not have a grip on reality and who knows what she might say about anything she sees on your FB page. I would run in the other direction and un-friend her as soon as possible!!

Good luck!!

She may be a pathological liar. If that's the case, distance yourself from her personally as well as professionally. Start by unfriending her on FB. Then, limit your conversations at work to work-related matters.
It can be a great stress-reliever to have friends at work, but it sounds like this woman is having the opposite effect on you.

Some people don't tell the full truth on facebook, as a security measure, if you will. Also, if they are trying to look more important to certain family members or school friends.

I don't think it's a good idea to FB friend co-workers.

This woman might not be a bad person, she might just have really low self-esteem.

But for many reasons, I think you should unfriend her. (And it could be a bad reflection on you to be FB friends with her, if other people know about her lies.)

At least "block" her from being able to see too much about you.

Did you reply to her PM with "Why did you post it?"

I like what Loving M. said. Just take her with a grain of salt. Let her entertain you. I find it somewhat strange that she would friend you in the first place though. Why would she do that?? She knows she's going to make stuff up about being Dept. chair, and celebrities visiting - why friend someone who will KNOW she's lying? Makes me think that she's one of those people who believe their own lies. I wouldn't distance myself from her, but I probably would just keep the relationship a "work" relationship, and not let it turn into a genuine friendship (because it sounds like that wouldn't work very well!) Just let it go. If it truly drives you crazy just hide her stuff on FB so you don't have to look at it.

I wouldn't call her out on anything. It's her page and she can do whatever she wants with it. If you're bothered by it, block her so you can't see her posts. Frankly, I think I would find it kind of entertaining, but nothing to be upset over. And I'd look for other friends if I were you.

Every time I see a post like this, I think "And THIS is why I am not on Facebook".

You could always just ignore her, right? or just say "wow, your Facebook page! I can hardly read it with a straight face!"

Now you know this chick is a lying liar. Just ignore her as much as possible, or flat-out call her on it if you must. My guess is she's immature and insecure and you don't need to 'out' her. My guess is that if you hear any sort of story from her regarding your colleagues, take it with a BIG grain of salt.

You've let her know that you're on to her. That's pretty much all you needed to do. You won't get an explanation from her, and it would look incredibly petty and mean if you outed her to her friends and family or gossiped about it at work.

I would take it as a warning that she's living in a Facebook Fantasy World. There are a lot of people that do it. They think that people won't like them or respect them or pay attention to them if they don't exaggerate. For some people it's a hunt for getting "likes" on their posts. She probably mixes just enough truth into her lies to make herself believable and keep people guessing, and I'm sure that most people who know her know this about her.

So my advice is "lesson learned." You don't know enough about her to say that she's a pathological liar that can't be trusted. She just can't be trusted to tell the truth online. Distance yourself from her in real life if it feels right, and block her posts on FB.

I would keep my distance and not get involved in a FB tit for tat. You have her number and she knows it. I would also put her on a list where she doesn't see all your posts, either, and where you don't see all of hers.

If she will lie to others, then she will lie to you and that's not someone to keep close. Over time, you can whittle her down til you just drop her on FB, I think. The only reason I wouldn't drop her cold is because she's a coworker, but I wouldn't make a big deal when you do. There needs not be any proclamation to unfriending people, IMO.,

I have a cousin like this. She's been caught in a few lies and just keeps trucking. This was long before FB. I don't even look now to see what she's up to. She is totally blocked. I don't have time for her drama.

I also agree that for coworkers, it is better to use something like LinkedIn.

Either unfriend her or ignore the posts. Or put the setting to block her posts.