Pooping at Night Only

Updated on January 06, 2009
F.S. asks from Malvern, PA
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My son is 3 and a 1/2. We started potty training him in August and when we first started, it took about 2 weeks for him to start using the potty to pee. He began to use the potty with some encouragement and bribing (candy). He even pooped in the potty a few times, but always was a bit hesitant and required extra urging to poop in the potty. Over the last two months or so, though he seems to have retracted a bit. He's now started holding his poop and has not pooped in the potty at all. He waits until he gets a pull up on for his naps or bedtime and then poops in there at night. I'm concerned, because it seems like he's pooping in the middle of the night. Is this okay? He's also become more resistant to peeing and now needs a lot of encouragement to go. He hasn't had accidents, but just seems to hold his pee until he can't anymore and then asks to use the potty. Is there anything I should do differently or just let him go at his pace? Thanks for your help in advance!

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D.B.

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My son was almost 3 1/2 and I was going through a very similar situation with him. After giving him a bath one day, I reminded him that we were going to a party that evening. I asked him to please try to go in the potty the rest of the day because when he goes in his diaper, people can smell it and I'm sure he doesn't want to smell badly. He asked me if people can really smell it and I said yes. That's all that was needed. He never went in his diaper again.

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A.S.

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My son did the exact same thing, only we never put diapers on him, so he would beg for one to go poop, we didn't give in and he got constipated. Some kids have a fear of pooping, not sure why. My pediatrician told me to give him a diaper whenever he asked for one, he only used it for pooping. He was holding it because it has become painful for him to go since he was holding it in all the time, so we had to let his body get used to going and once it didn't hurt him consecutively for several weeks, he was open to go on the potty again. He was over 4 years old when he was 100% done. It's normal and unfortunately to avoid problems, I think you need to go with the flow.

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N.C.

answers from Harrisburg on

A friend of mine had a similar problem with her son. She told me that what fixed it for them was to make sure he had a stool. I was confused, so I did a little research and there is actually something to it - it seems that the poor little kiddos can't seem to push out what they need to without having something to push their feet on.

My son, who will be 4 in February often asks me to put my leg down if we are at a friend's house without a stool.

Hope this helps =O}

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D.P.

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Hmmmm....lots of different schools of thought on this O., I'm sure.
I think it's normal for kids to do the O.-step-forward-two-steps-back at some point during potty training. But your son is 3 and a half and he can probably do it...he's just stalled a little. Have you thought about doing a sticker chart for a reward after X amount of potty uses? That might really motivate him!
Also, I think at some point you've gotta cut loose of the pull ups. It may be confusing him a little bit?
Also, I remember being told that kids (even babies) really don't poop in their sleep. He is most likely doing it as soon as he wakes up or right before he goes to sleep, and you don't want him sleeping in a poopy diaper! My son went through a phase like that when he was transitioning to a toddler bed, and I became a master of the night time, dark room diaper change -- he didn't even wake up!
Good luck to your little guy!

B.K.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Hi F.. Potty training is a control issue for parents and kids. I suggest you quit the candy bribbing and back off for a bit. When we went through this stage with our girls we did the sticker-a-day. For everyday they went accident free they got a sticker on the family calendar. When they got a month of stickers they got a star castle. This method worked really well for us and our girls were all over the age of three when we started. We also waited til they went through the night dry in pull-ups. We moved to panties in bed when they asked for them. As a result we never had accidents in bed, and the potty training went pretty smoothly. Relax, be matter-of-fact about it and don't focus your life around the bathroom and it will happen in his own time. As our Dr. told us, as long as they are potty trained by the time they go to school, their fine! Best wishes.

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T.H.

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I know I'm responding late, but I just found this request amidst my emails. My son was also, and still is, good at "holding it". He potty trained very well at 3 and a half. After he was potty trained for a little while, he suddenly refused to poop in anyone's toilet but ours. It was quite awful because he would hold it and be in pain at my mother-in-laws. She would feel so bad and tried to talk him into using her potty and offered him cookies and ice cream or whatever to get him to go, but that usually didn't work. I would try to get him to go in the morning before we left our house or at night. That way I knew he probably wouldn't have to go while we were out. I definitely think it was a control issue, even though it may have been sparked by something very simple that he didn't like. I highly suggest a reward chart, like we used, where he gets a sticker every time he uses the potty- pee and poop (at least for a while to get him excited and in the habit of going more often). Me and my son made his chart together. I wrote the words "Kal's Big Boy Chart" and made the lines, and he went over them with colors and decorated the edges. Once he filled up a row with stickers, he would get a surprise. This worked really, really well. He was excited about picking a sticker and filling up the row to get a surprise. I would pick up cheap, fun little toys when I was out shopping (like $1 items) and keep them hidden in a drawer. If you call it a surprise, it could also be something that he gets to do, like blow bubbles or something he enjoys. I definitely think it helped that he made the chart with me; it gave him more pride in using it. Also, you can continue using the chart later to positively reinforce other behaviors. On the pee side, my son could always hold it for long periods of time. Which, became a problem later. When he was about 5 and a half, he started leaking urine, in very small amounts, in his underwear without having any control over it. And he suddenly started peeing the bed, which he had never done, not even while potty training. I thought it was a Urinary Tract Infection and brought him to the doctor's office right away, but the tests kept coming back negative, and they told me it's very difficult for a boy to get a bladder infection because of the length of their urethra.
After going back and forth and the tests continuing to come back negative, they sent me to a pediatric urologist. They told me that he probably damaged something from always holding it in for long periods of time and that any pain was probably caused by the concentration of his urine.
He was put on a voiding schedule (to pee or empty his bladder every 2-3 hours), and we had to make sure he got 30 ounces of water/fluids every day (that's alot harder than you'd think). So, I would suggest that along with the chart, you prompt him to empty his bladder every couple hours - to get a sticker of course! And to get him in the habit of going more often, before he's about to burst, and keep him from developing any problems. What might help with the pooping is some gentle encouragement and talking about it. Maybe he could get 2 stickers for pooping in the potty! My son's control over it escalated to him not wanting to poop even at our house. The problem was that he was holding it so long, that by the time he could go at our house, it was hurting him to go. I had to talk to him a lot and explain to him that when he held it in, it made it harder to get out later. I told him that when he felt like he had to go, he should go in anyone's potty, so that it doesn't hurt. To finally get him to go and stop holding it, I told him his body wanted to get it out and he had to let it. It was really tough for a while there. My suggestion is that as soon as he starts pooping in the potty again a couple times that you stop putting pull-ups on him. Just make sure he empties his bladder right before naps and bedtime. Even if he doesn't feel like he has to go, ensure him that there is still pee in there and he can empty it out so he doesn't have to go while he's sleeping or have any accidents. The other thing that we did when we first started potty training might help you. We had potty parties. Maybe you could save them for when he poops on the toilet or whatever works for you, but I got a bag of party blowers (the ones that blow out, then coil back up or whatever you think he'll like) and while he used the potty or after he had gone in it, we would blow them together and sing "Potty party!" and fun stuff. You really have to make it fun and exciting. You can slowly back off all the rewarding and partying as using the potty often and easily becomes a habit to him. If you want to talk any more about it, just send me a message. My son is almost 7 now, and his bladder problem slowly got better and better. He hasn't wet the bed in a really long time (I was able to stop putting the night-time pullups on him), but he still does have some small amount of leaking once in a while. The leaking has never been serious enough to wear anything besides his underwear though, so it's not that bad. I hope that things have already improved since you posted your request and that they continue to get better! P.S. I'm sorry my response ended up being so long!

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