B.B.
My 12 year old son has been like this since he started eating solid foods. I went thru years of frustration trying to get him to eat, taking him to therapy and finally gave up. He's small for his age, but never gets sick, so he will have to come around on his on terms. It's not a control issue. Try googling "food neo-phobia" there was a show on TV about it a year or so ago. Some kids are really terrified of eating new foods. Think of it by comparing someone who is afraid of flying, or heights, its the same thing. My son did finally realize that if he is distracts himself like playing x-box while trying a new food it helps because he doesn't psych himself out at the thought of putting something new in his mouth. Try this first with foods she used to eat since they technically aren't new foods. It's still going to be hard for her, but maybe it will work. You never know.