No Mojo

Can I be a bit hard on you?
Why are you going for number three if you're not feeling up to having a good time with hubby? Is it really necessary to have a third child when you're exhausted, not into it etc? How about focusing on you? Take care of yourself by going to the gym, sleeping, spending quality time with family etc. Why not wait until you're back into shape and feel ready to have a child when you're healthier, off meds and more relaxed. Don't enslave yourself into having too many kids and not being happy in the end. Life is too short. Be well and good luck to you.

First, you need sleep. NOTHING drags down your mojo like exhaustion. Second, maybe think about waiting a few months for #3 while you get you back on track. Take some of the pressure and expectation off of yourself.

It can be very normal to lose interest, especially when you have little children. You could be more tired than usual, stressed, feeling the burden of being a grown up (if only we knew how much easier it was to be a kid!). It really doesn't sound like there is anything "wrong" with you.

Are you getting enough sleep? That can help TREMENDOUSLY. Are you getting some down time to relax and not stress?

As for natural things, try drinking red raspberry leaf tea. You can take it in tea form or in capsule form. That stuff works wonders for me in all girlie areas. I haven't used it in hopes of it making me more interested, but it helps to balance hormones, and it only makes sense to me that it would help you in that area. It also helps eliminate PMS (I get it bad some times, and it wipes it completely out!). It gets rid of cramps for me. It lightens my period and shortens it. And when we tried for baby #2, I couldn't get prego after six months. A friend told me about red raspberry (it was the first time I'd heard of it), and so I took it, and it balanced my hormones and I was prego two weeks later.

You want to take it three times a day, every day. Tea form is best, but it's pretty gross...at least I think so! So, there is the capsule option. It's more expensive, but I swear by this stuff. I've never used anything natural that had such obvious results.

Also, I'd suggest trying to alter your thinking a little bit and see if it helps. If your hubby is interested, you don't always have to be interested at the same level he is. Sometimes I'm just too tired to feel like taking the time to get interested (and I don't mean that to sound like I don't care...I just know that it would take a LOT of effort for me to get interested and it makes it more likely that I would just say no). But if I view it from the point of view that I love my hubby, and I don't need to pressure myself to be as interested (apparently I felt a lot of pressure from myself to try to make myself really interested), it makes it easier to be intimate more often when I didn't pressure myself like that. I don't know if that made sense. It turned into me wanting hubby to know I loved him and appreciated him, even if I wasn't interested myself, I was for him. It made it easier to be intimate more often. I've since found that my problem was lack of sleep! So, I try hard to make sure I get enough and it helps a lot.

I hope that helps some...

Good luck to you!

I agree with all the moms here.. and a great way to get that libido up I find is fresh air, some "me" time, a good cardio workout, like Zumba, or Jazzercise. I hate the gym. I hate getting on the equipment and I also HATE those cheerleader types that show off in their spandex and perfect makeup at the gym.... very discouraging to say the least. So I join the other girls, who are just like me and love to dance.... and work out on the dance floor.(Even better if you can do it with a friend)

That gets me going.. The trick is to feel good about yourself, enjoy the sunshine, good company, some "me" time and vitamins won't hurt either.

Good luck. Let us know what helped you.

The NUMBER ONE libido killer?

Sleep deprivation.

If you're tired all the time, you're not going to get your mojo back. You actually need to catch up on your sleep, have personal time carved into your day, and into your week. As in, when you start feeling lively again, you'll start feeling lively again.

Anti-depressants are usually something that you will need to be on the rest of your life. If the cause is a chemical imbalance in your brain you can't fix it with lifestyle or diet or anything except a medication.

If you had diabetes and needed insulin would you just decide you didn't want to take meds and stop? If it was medication to sustain an organ transplant? of course not, you'd religiously take those meds. Just because you have depression does not mean anything derogatory or anything is mentally wrong with you. It means you have a chemical imbalance.

Sex drive can be effected by meds too so be sure and discuss this with your Psychiatrist that prescribes your anti-depressant. There are also anti-depressants you can safely be on during pregnancy.

There are millions of women who have depression and have children that are grown up with children of their own and have had no side effects from being exposed to the anti-depressant meds during their mom's pregnancy. I always choose an older tried and true med before trying some new one that has not had years and years of long time studies done with it.

it could be the birth control is still in your system, i got off of it in january for the same reason and i JUST got my sex drive back i will not get back on it even though i am thinking about it but i dont want to risk losing my drive again and i hate having meds in my body

Twice a month? Better than twice a year. My wife is so concerned with being a mommy now that sex is just now her priority and she too is tired all the time. You just have to choose to make it a priority. If there was a magic pill, I sure would like to know.

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I agree with what Gigis said below. <3

I have to contradict Gamma G a little bit, yes many people who take antidepressants will need to take the continuously, like a diabetic takes insulin, but not all people will have to do so. I took them for a short period of time to help me through a very stressful time in my life, now that I'm through it I don't need them anymore, BUT you must discuss this with your DR and let your Dr guide you through that decision.

I lost my Mojo during a hormone shift... miscarriage, birth of a child at the age of 40, nursing, perimenopause, and I must say that it has recently come back with seemingly no explanation, but if I really stop to think about it two things have drastically changed for reasons not related to my Mojo. I began eating a very healthy diet... I weigh 110 pounds (I'm not overweight) and I was exhausted all the time and had a terrible cold that I just couldn't kick, so I decided to start eating healthy 90% of the time (you have to cheat sometimes!), I make sure I have 3 healthy meals a day (eggs and Veggies for breakfast, low carb lunch and low to medium carb dinner, I have protein at every meal and one high carb food each day ,potato oatmeal or whole grain bread, and at least two fruit/veggie snacks each day) it takes some work to change and get used to eating healthy but for what ever reason I do have my Mojo back! even my Hubby commented about it! the other thing I've done was change my attitude, instead of waiting to "feel" like it, I just decide that I want to and I do what I would do if I already "felt" like it, then somewhere along the way, I really do "feel" like it and it has been great (better than great actually) but I didn't realize these factors till I looked back in hind sight. getting my mojo back after almost 6 years of it being gone, has been a great blessing! all I did was decide that eating healthy was a good idea and it has had a positive affect on several areas of my life!

Sleep can hinder you also. you may want to try adding vitamins and a Vit D3 supplement. all good for you. the Raspberry tea, I have heard that it will help you get pregnant but stop after you achieve pregnancy, because it can hinder hormones that help sustain pregnancy, I learned that from my friend that was having fertility issues.

Since you're trying for #3, maybe start taking your prenatal vitamins now. I think the other two responses (sleep and cardio) are the way to start.
Depending on how much your hubby does around the house, maybe he can take on some more chores to help you out.
I hope you feel better soon. Remember, it's exhausting being a mom and it's ok to be tired.

Have you tried Date night? get a sitter and spend some time with just your hubby. I find it hard to transition quickly from Mommy to cleaning lady to sexy wife. I told him that me cleaning the kitchen while he sleeps on the couch or is on his computer does NOT put me in the mood! I told him we need to spend time talking and enjoying something together (dinner or a movie) before we go to bed. Doesnt have to be a sitter and you go out can be spending time together after kids go to bed, but start with a romantic night out.

A good cardio work out. It helps to release endorphins. Try even 10 minutes a day, followed by a nice relaxing bath. Work up to 30 minutes a day.
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I forgot to say make sure you eat a healthy diet every day. No processed foods, they are too high in salt and other chemicals.

Good luck, I know how hard this is.