Hi W., I've been in Tulsa my kids' whole lives. My youngest (8th grade) is also under an IEP. Broken Arrow is your best choice in Oklahoma for special education ... ESPECIALLY for anything under the Autism spectrum!!!
When you move to Broken Arrow, make sure you are NOT NOT NOT in the Union District. Part of the Broken Arrow City Limits are in Union School District.
They have a great school district, but their special education has a less than stellar reputation, and have left many parents battle worn and weary ...they also are NOT good with autism.
My son, qualified for an IEP when he was 3, and we had to file to due process in Union TWO times to get it! We did not get one willingly from Union until he was in the SECOND GRADE.
The Middle School and IEP's are so bad, we wound up pulling him out to homeschool him until we move to Broken Arrow (later this month) We actually had a SPECIAL ED TEACHER tell us that they do not modify for any one child, but modify for the whole classroom....
So PLEASE ... make sure you are not in the Union District when you move to Broken Arrow, make sure your home is in the Broken Arrow district!!!
Welcome to the area! My son will be starting in Broken Arrow middle school in December. Broken Arrow has a special education Parents Association (Union has no such organization) you should hear something about it after your son starts in school.