Would learning sign language help? I know that at this point, it may be just another thing to do that's on your already long & overwhelming list of things to do. But in the long run it can greatly, hugely and positively impact your son's life when he goes into college, for example, because then he can watch the interpreter instead of relying on his auditory input.
My son is deaf/hard of hearing and we have an IEP for him in school. He is in Kindergarten with a full time interpreter, along with speech therapy sessions each day and a DHH itinerant teacher (who I'm not convinced is really beneficial, but that's just her I think) Anyway, in relation to your situation, I would definitely have the school do everything they can. They are not going to bend over backwards to let you know of the special services you can request, it is YOUR job (unfortunately) to say this is what will help my son, I need you to provide this and get it on an IEP (504? not real knowledgeable on the difference between the two, but as someone else on here said, 504 is only the classroom teacher, while the IEP incorporates a team such as specialists, speech therapists, (interpreters) etc in addition to the classroom teacher.) Once the needs are identified and on the IEP, the school has to provide that.
I have seen far too many parents not really insist on the best possible situation for their children (I'm speaking mainly of sign language interpreters for deaf children from my experience/exposure to deaf students, their teachers and parents in CA). As a result only one or two of the group of students have consistently good interpreters and the opportunity to advance at grade levels each year while all the rest fall by the wayside. Maybe due to the lack of higher expectations at home or whatever.
As a Deaf person personally, I know how important clear instruction is. I could have the best teachers/college professors,but if my interpreters could only sign and convey (or your son's ears/brain) only so much, *that* little information is all I get, irrespective of how great the teacher was.
This is why I've insisted on an interpreter starting in Kindergarten with my son who wears hearing aids but can hear/speak pretty well. I want him to be able to have access to ALL the information, not just what he gets.
J., if you want to email me directly, I would be way more than happy to correspond with you and answer any questions you may have about sign language, deafness, my perspective as a deaf adult and the overwhelming feelings I had (yes, even as a deaf adult, it surprised me) when my son became deaf at 3 or so. Navigating the school system, oh good grief! Didn't matter that I personally had gone to a school for the deaf as a child, was mainstreamed with other deaf students and a teacher for the deaf in a regular public school, was mainstreamed solo in public school, and graduated from a residential school for the deaf. Plus I majored in Elem Ed, subbed in Deaf/HH classes, worked with parents/deaf infants-toddlers, did some itinerant work, ETC. So you'd think I'd be totally fine with all that experience behind me but it was still hard, so I really feel for parents who have NO background or experience!
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