Hi, F.,
I think you have received a lot of great advice! I definitely agree that you should NOT be making it a power struggle. I have a 3.5 year old son and he gets to decide how much he eats and what. I coax him, but if he absolutely does not want to eat something, then, no problem! He doesn't have to eat it. When he says he is full, I pretty much let him go from the table. it is really easy going around here. Sometimes when it is lights out, he decides he is hungry (even if he has already eaten a proper dinner), so I sit him back at the table and if there was something he didn't eat earlier, I will offer that and say, "you can eat this or we can go to bed now". If he really is hungry, he will choose to eat it. If I don't have leftovers, I just give him cereal, but believe me, he does not survive on cereal alone. He eats great and even though he may not choose to eat everything I serve, he is willing to try new things, because I am not forcing things onto him. A lot of times, he will eventually eat something the fifth or sixth time I am serving it. Please don't punish your little girl for not wanting to eat. They say it takes 10 times of serving the same food for kids to want to taste it. So, don't get discouraged if she is picky. Just keep serving it over time and eventually, she will try it. She may watch you eating it many times and then get curious about how it tastes. The more pleasant you can make meal times, the better eater she will become. If you make it stressful, she will start feeling defensive anytime mealtimes come up and I am sure that is not what you want. As long as you are offering healthy foods to her, let her decide how much she wants to eat and what. There is nothing wrong with trying to coax, but it needs to be gently and pleasant, not to the point that you are threatening, punishing or bribing. I also ask my 3.5 year old if he is ready for dinner. I have this luxury, because my husband works evenings, so it is just my son, my infant and me. So i try to make it when he is hungry, that way he will eat more. Good luck and congrats on the upcoming arrival of your baby!