i recently gave birth three weeks ago.and started to notice a big problem with my son he had a problem holding his urine but lately hes been pooping on him self i talked i yelled and nothing seems to work he is five yeals old. what can i do please help!!!!!!!!!!!!
right after i gave birth like 3 days my husband took my son to mexico it was a long way from the airport to the exact location so he had him on pull ups i dont know how often he had him thaht way that maybe he got used to it i dont know.
regression is very normal when a big change happens, having a baby def qualifies as a big change. Spend some time with him also you might want to take him to the dr he could have picked up some kind of illness while in mexico.
I second what Bethany said.
Please don't yell at your son about this. It's an attention thing. Sounds like he's lacking and that's not your fault as you have a 3 week old! Try to set some time away for him to just have "mommy time". Have your husband take the baby for a bit and go do a puzzle with him, read, cuddle, etc.
Reward him for staying clean in his pants with a special "big brother hug" or an extra book at bedtime.
I realize that this would be a total annoyance when you are busy already cleaning up newborn poops, and now you have to deal with extra-nasty 5 year old messes! Try to stay patient and understanding of how a 5 year old's mind works. Good luck and congrats on the new arrival!
Your son is five years old? The reason he is pooping is because he's insecure because you just had a new baby!! Don't yell at him about it, that kind of regressive behavior is common enough. He needs to be cuddled and loved and told that you still love him even though you have another baby. If you yell at him it will get worse.
I know you're tired with the new baby, but if you start punishing your son for this you are going to have a lot more work. Just clean it up.
Bethany's right. Calm down, it's a small and temporary problem. You will get past this and so will he if you stop yelling. When my son wets himself I simply tell him to take off his clothes, put them in the tub and put on new ones. He gets a star if he stays dry all day long, and we go to McDonald's for 7 stars, etc. So far it seems to be working, and if he wets himself, all that really happens is that I end up washing his clothes, which I would anyways.
You have a 5yo who has a new sibling and you think he can act like a 20 yo?
Recognize that your 5yo has reverted to a younger age because having a sibling is kind of like having a spouse die. In terms of the amount of stress involved.
Let it go... in 5 years no one would ever guess.
It could be regression but little boys are notorious for delaying pee and poop. They have all manner of reasons for doing it - or not doing it.
Underlying constipation could be at the root of your son's issue because it puts a lot of pressure on the bladder and confuses all the signals that we take for granted. If he is constipated, he simply may not be able to make sense of what he is feeling and he's hit by surprise with an accident.
Definitely hold off on the criticism and chastizing for now. For this issue, only respond to behavior you want him to keep.
You can also consult with your doctor about treatment options and the possibility of taking him to a see a urologist. We did just that for one of my sons and the urologist gave us a protocol for releasing the constipation and for helping him to maintain a healthy bowel. So far so good.
This happened with my daughter when her first brother was born....Patience....It is regression to get attention because he feels displaced. I would recommend since he is 5 that should he have an accident then he must be part of the clean-up. At 5 he should be able to do that. At some point he will get tired of it. My daughter did :)
Hello dear mom,
Your boy is going through stress. I have a 5 year old boy myself. Whenever there is new changes in his envionment changed- place of leaving, school, friends he doesn't go to the bathroom for #2 and sometimes urinates on himself. He's been trained to go to the bathroom since 1 1/2 years and only when big life changes happen he has this problem. After some reassurance (explaining to him the changes) and talking to the daycare/ school staff to remind him to go to the bathroom after snack or lunch... Usually it takes about 2-3 weeks for him to restore comfort level and he is back to normal. Good luck!
Yep, he is feeling left out and is regressing. He will get over it. Just try to give him as much attention as you can. A few weeks ago, he was the center of your world, now he feels like he has to compete with this new bundle of joy. I tried to do special things with my older kids when another came along. It helped a ton. I would surprise them with balloons and tell them I loved them and they were going to be wonderful big brothers. Hang in there!
He feels left out, traded in for a younger model, not the baby any more. Try to give him some special one on one time a little bit each day to help him know he is still your baby too and you love him just the same as before. Try to get him to help you with the new baby too. Getting you diapers and wipes. Toys, binkies, etc.
Above all, don't yell at him or punish him. He is just feeling that maybe you don't love him anymore since the new baby gets all the attention..
Yelling at him is the worst thing you can do, he probably has realised you dont shout at the baby when its got a dirty nappy but you spend time with it you probably coo nd make it smile nd do the baby talk, he s going to feel left out, try including him when cleaning the baby up nd at the same time tell him hes the good boy for mummy nd how special he is being a big boy using the toilet make a chart give him gold stars but dont shout at him hes had you to himself for 5 years dont alienate him from his sibling include him thats when jealousy sets in. Hope this helps
J. mum of 5 U.K
This is typical "sibling rivalry". Subcosciously, he feels baby has "stolen" you from him and ANY attention (even negative attention) is what he wants and what he gets every time he soils or wets himself! If at all possible, enroll your 5 year old in a preschool. I guarantee he won't "mess" when you're not around! Then make sure that you DO make time for him, maybe by reading a book while breastfeeding or asking him to help fetch a diaper etc and praising him for all the things you are happy for him to do. Put him back in nappies for night time until he can prove he's a "big boy" and doesn't need them any more. Whatever you do, DO NOT make a fuss if he has an "accident". Just quietly take him and clean him up. No scolding, no eye contact - maybe a time-out (away from you) would also work (as long as u TOTALLY ignore the tantrums he's bound to throw!!) . He'll soon get the message that he'll only get the attention he wants if he acts like a "big boy" and not a baby.
