I'm not sure how to explain this. So please bare w/ me. It's been I don't know how long since I've had to think about this. I am really good friends w/ this guy who is a Volunteer Firefighter. He such a sweet heart & a great friend. I feel like I can be myself around him. He lives a little over 8 1/2 hrs. away from me. How can I tell IF he likes me for more that a friend? How should I go about telling him that I serious feelings about him (like him more than a friend)? I don't want to lose him as my friend. What should I do. We talk pretty much talk to ea. other every night. For at least 2 or more hours. He accepts me for who I am. My gut instinct / feeling is that he is Mr. Right. Any help would greatly be appreciated.
We still talk almost every night for several hours. He has admitted he likes me. I'm not sure (yet) if it's just like or if it's like, like. I was going to tell him let me know when he's ready to take our friendship to the next level (dating). But he ended up getting a fire call before I could tell him. I also told him some other stuff too. He's a Volunteer Firefighter. He is NOT seeing anyone else. We both don't have the $ right now to meet each other. But we're both really hoping to meet each other soon / some day. Soon as one of us gets the $ to. We've swapped pictures of ea. other. Right now I'm not pushing the subject of taking our friendship up to the next level. I just wanted to tell him that. We've also talked about remaining friends even IF we don't get together. Which I told him is cool w/ me. But right now we're just taking one day at a time. We're both born the same year. We're both born only like a month apart I think it is.I'll keep ya'll posted.
Sure does sound like there may be something there. I don't know many guys that like talking on the phone for 2 hours. ;) Have you guys gotten to hang out in person much? That might be a great idea if you think you want to move into more than friends.
Hi! well if i were you i would just come right out and tell him! It may be hard right now but if he excepts you for you then he should be able to handle that you have some feelings for him. If he doesnt feel the same you two could just remain friends. But if you talk for 2 hrs. a night i would say it sounds like there is something there! Good luck and let me know how it goes!
~J.~
Follow your heart! The worst that could happen is to find out it's not what you thought and you can move on. The best that could happen?....well that's up to you! Never know until you try and love is so worth the risk!
you can't "just tell" if he likes you, and if you talk quite often, then bring it up if he doesn't. You don't have to be totally blunt, but you could ask him where he sees himself in say 5 years or how would he feel about getting in a relationship with someONE. You could what if yourself to death, but he could be just a nervous as you are to bring up the subject. and if you are as good as friends as you say then having an open conversation shouldn't jeopardize that. Don't dump everything on him at once though, find out if he'd be nervous about having instant family or if he just rolls with that kind of thing. Maybe his job limits him from taking the next step, not necessarily financially, but because it is a big change to make in routines...and we all know how men like change....
Well way the pros and cons. I mean you really like this guy, right! He might feel the same way, and if you don't tell him, or ask him it may end up being too late. He lives so far away, and who knows what kind of relationship he may already be in. I would start by asking him if he is in a relationship and what he wants out of life. Then if it feels right, ask him how he thinks of you. and if he wants to get together sometime. The way I look at it is if you care about him, whats there to loose? I don't know how old you are, but waiting isn't gonna make you any younger. I know I've waisted alot of my life on stupid relationships with men in the past, that I could have saved from heart ache and pain. SO go for it, you only live once. good luck and if you want you can tell me what happens, i'd be interested to hear. Cause you know if a man talks to you for two hours everynight that right there should tell you he cares. Not very many men would waist there time, when you are so far away. good luck again. chris
