Hi J.,
Right now, I have several children here ranging from almost 5 to 14 mos. The 14 month old takes 2 naps, a short one in the morning, and at least a two hour nap in the afternoon with all of the rest of the children. Sleeping is a habit, and a good one. I usually take about a 15 minute break in the morning, like right now, where the children play with their toys or watch a short show, and then I have a two-hour break in the afternoon where everyone is asleep. Believe me I would never have had a 30 year career of daycare without these much needed breaks. All Moms deserve these breaks, too....it is a part of being able to be a great Mom. In the summer I have children ranging from 8 to newborn, and they still all take a much needed nap. Adults love naps, so why shouldn't children. I have children who ask if it is naptime yet? We try to make it a good time here...they all have their own sheet to lay on, each in their own little bag in the closet. They love their sheets, and that they go get them after lunch, and pick them up after nap, and put them back in the closet...it makes them feel soooooo big. My 14 month old takes a nap in the livingroom floor in the morning while all the other children are playing there also. I realize that sometimes children are better for others, but I raised my own this way, too.
You need to decide what you want in your life, be consistent, and follow through. You are the parent and they are the children. Make the rules, be consistent, and follow through. Don't give in or they will give you a hard time, every time. Always try to stay on schedule, as much as possible, and you will soon find that they are tired when it comes time for nap. It will take a few days to get your schedule down, and they definitely will try you for the first few days, but hang in there and it will happen. You will be so happy that you did this after the few days of getting it initiated, but it will be worth every stressful moment once they are in the habit of doing this. You will also find that you have much happier children when they get their naps everyday. You will also find that once you get into a routine they will sleep better at night, too.
Anyway, I wish you the best and congratulations on the new baby.
C.