R.M.
Hi J.,
I have a 6 year old that acts like a teenager also and who is difficult to get to do chores and other responsibilities. Recently, like 3 days ago, we devised a system where when she does certain house responsibilites like set the table, get ready for school by herself, get ready for bed by herself, clean up her toys, practice piano, or spelling, etc...she gets little colored cards(or points or whatever) and then she can trade those cards in for various rewards that she helped me come up with - like watch a movie, play a game, go out for ice cream or to the toy store, etc... For 3 days now she's been running around the house like mad helping me out - dusting even! They seem to be quite the consumers and although I tried for many years to just expect her to help out and be a part of this family, it seems the reward system works much better. You could reward her for good, respectful behavior and/or take "cards" away when she yells and acts disrespectfully. Yelling back just doesn't seem to work and rewarding the good seems to sink in a little more. Good Luck! This too shall pass...