N.H.
R.,
It sounds like both of you are experiencing hurts and pains from one another's actions, especially in the TRUST area.
I suggest you and your Husband take your marriage to God in prayer. He is the only resolution to healing your relationship so you both can move past the broken hearts with forgiveness. But first "YOU" start off by getting an intimate and personal relationship with Jesus and if you already have a relationship with Jesus-get even closer with Him by reading His Holy Word (Bible)daily and stay in prayer(always talking to God)so you can hear from Him clearly as He gives you healing,direction, patience, forgiveness, and a restored Love in your marriage.
Jesus is the resolution to every problem- through life experiences, I know....
Start off by reading Matthew 11:28-30
Sincerely Concerned,
N. H.