My Daughter Is Very Whinny I Need Some Help

My 4 year-old son is whiny, too. Try saying to her, "I won't talk to you when you whine like this" and walk away. I think sometimes when we give more attention, even if negative, reinforces the whining.

Usually a kid will be whinny if they are broed, hungry or tired. Depending on he time of day, you can do difefrent things.Redirect her whinning by introducing a new toy, distract with something new to do or just cuddle and read ehr a story. If she is just hungry give her soem fruits or soemthing to eat, hopefully something wholesome (because sugar is no substitute for real foods) and do not give sugary meals to kids for the sugar will spike and drop suddenly and cause kids to whine. For mroe foods. For sometimes being hyper and whinning is a "means in of it self that she is trying to tell you that she < that the child> may have some needs that need to be met. Perhaps she has low blood sugar and cant stand waiting for a meal. Its alway good to give small children something to munch on every two hours for their blood sugar drops with so much activity. You would be surprise why kids whine. Many times also it is because they feel "left out" and want attention, love and a need for soem comfort. Esp when there are otehr children around that seem to alway be getting the most attention, and a child will whine to redirect YOUR attention at them. and if it is not handled swiftly it can be a behavior they will learn how to use, to get what they want....attention. Sometimes also whinning could be signs of sickness; a fever, a tooth ache or something even more desperate, like an ear infection of a virus that is causing them to be restless. For a small child cant always express their needs for specific attention. But they cry and whine when they are dealing with any discomfort. Never ignore a child who whines. It could be a safeguard to protect them, whinning to get YOUR attention. Concerning SOMWETHING they cant express. There is always a reason why small children whine. They are hungry, in pain or some discomfort. as for smaller babeis, it usually hungry, diaper change, or sickness. as kids get older they regress also to a lower form of crying for the same attentions and same reasons. so dont ignore it.

I have a 2 year old son that can act that way with me too. He seems fine with everyone else. I can recomend only responding to her needs when she speaks to you like a "big girl". Sit her down, look her in the eyes and explain that you don't want her to talk like that and that as a 'big girl" she needs to remember to speak clearly and ask for what she wants.
I comend you for your strength, and know that it must be hard to juggle everything, so, we as mothers, can overcompensate and give in to our children, it's easier after a long day, be strong, and hold your daughter to higher standards when she is around you, she will learn to respect you more as she grows older and see her Mom as the strong women she is.

Does she visit her dad? You said she only whines when with you, and whines about everything? Is it mostly when the other kids are around? She may be trying to get your attention. Try playing board games or cards with her to get her to focus on something else. Might also try getting her into a play group. Where you and other moms get together once a week and have all the kids play, and y'all get to sit and thank goodness the other kids are not yours. :)

I dont remember where i read this but the advise was to ignore the whinny voice but when she starts it just say to her i cant hear you maybe if you use your big girl voice i will understand you and dont give in until she uses her regular voice...

My daughter was the same way for a really long time. I tried everything you've said you've tried. Then I got so aggravated with the whining, finally if she whined, I just ignored her. It may seem a little harsh, but I would tell her, Mommy doesn't listen to whining. And walk away from her. About two weeks of just ignoring it, she stopped. I don't know if this will work for you, but try it. I hope it helps.

Usually when a child acts a certain way, they are picking it up from somewhere. Watch your behavior as well, she may be mocking you. Sometimes parents don't even realize that they are doing the same things as their children. Be understanding with her, she is only a child. Sometimes they also go through fazes, and it will pass. The more you pay attention to her whining, the more she will whine. It is not really a behavior that should be punished, but more ignored. Act like she isn't there if she whines and give her attention when she behaves, it may be an attention getter. Good luck.

Hi B.!

Have you tried positive reinenforcement? My kids do the same thing...whine just for Mommy. I think they know they can get away with it a little more With Mommy than with others. But I've tried this and it worked for me. I only respond to them when they are not whining. I tell them I will be happy to listen to them or help them but will not do so until they stop with the crying/whining/ carrying on. So once I tell them this...I ignore the negative behavior until they stop and show me a positive one ( ie. stop whining ) Then I reward them for this by giving them the attention they need...want. I am showing them that I don't respond to whining...just good behavior. It may be a little hard for you, in the beginning. She might even get worse before she gets the message. But keep reminding her that you're not available until the behavior stops. Hope that helps a little! Hang it there!

Hi B.....well, I will preface this with saying that all children are so different so here is what works with our daughter. My almost 4 year old is a lovely girl, but whinny as well. I think that is the age that the whinning begins!! We simply ask her to speak in a non-whinny voice and will not address her or give in to her requests unless she asks "more appropriately". Good luck - it can get on your last nerve!!