My family hasn't ever liked any of my friends either.
One friend I met on my very first day of college. She has gone through many changes in her life and we lost track of each other for a few years but now we're good again. She lives about 5 hours away but we chat every day or so on FB or on the phone. We see each other every few years, it's not something we can afford to go and stay in a hotel. That's just too much money.
Another friend is a member of our church and is an older single adult. She is pretty disabled and my family just hates going to her house because they always get roped into doing something for her.
My friend that I grew up with, I was an adult with a child but pretty immature, man, my husband hated her. He thought she was low class and brought me down to her level. She is a mother of 4 and a hard worked and is a good mom. She is a manager of a finance place and has a degree. She isn't a low life. She actually lived in a house that she was renting and was remodeling it for her rent. It was gutted and as she went along she made it into a lovely home.
I tell my family that they can have their friends and I can have mine.
I don't take them with me every time I go do something with my friends either. I spend adult time with my friends while the kids are at school and hubby isn't along for the ride.
I did take them with me to go visit my friend that is out of state but they stayed at the hotel water park and my friend and I spent the days together. I spent the evenings with my family and we went to some shows. It was a dual vacation.