Invitation to Daughter's Communion and Drifted Away Friendship

How badly do you want to rekindle the friendship? If you want to stay close to her, I suggest one of two things:
1. Go to the communion
2. Tell her you have a previous commitment but schedule a specific day and time to meet up instead - maybe lunch just the two of you while the kids are at school

If you don't care about the friendship and don't want to go, skip it altogether. Just reply - no need to give a reason - saying "Thank you so much for thinking of us. I'm really sorry we can't be there but we hope it all goes well. Tell her congrats for us."

The question is, 'Do you want to reinstate your friendship?'

Really good friendships are hard to find and worth working for, so if she qualifies - go. Your children won't always be the center of your daily life and as they grow she may be a good source of support and advice.

But, if she is more transitory, send a nice card and your regrets.

Life is like that. Friends drift apart. Sometimes, though, they still have strong feelings of friendship for one another.

If you like, accept the invitation so you can help the family rejoice at this event. Don't expect anything from your former friend, but be thankful that you get to say hello to her once more.

If you want to keep this friendship then go to the communion. If you don't want to continue to be friends then don't go. Your kids don't have to be the same age to "have things in common". One of my best friends her daughter is only 16 months old my kids are 12, 6 and 3 years old. She is still my best friend. She and I have a lot in common and my kids call her Aunt and her daughter will call me Aunt. It isn't because of the kids we are friends. You had this friend before you had kids and maybe you did go differnet directions and there is no connection anymore but if you do still have a connnection go because you care about her not because your kids are the same age or whatever reason.

You don't want this to be the last time you see her?

Lol... The LAST time you saw her will be the last time, otw.

Go.

Even if just to touch base.

I'm biased, of course. I've only ever regretted lost opportunities.

go-you'll be glad you did-your children could be friends for life!

If you want to save the friendship and rekindle then go, and make sure to set up another time to get together before you leave the event. If you are happy to see this friendship end, then skip it and see if she takes the hint. If you like things the way they are and will not make it, then call her and let her know you are sorry you can not attend, and keep your phone friendship the way it is.

It's simple.. IF you think the friendship is worth your time and by your going, it will cause you two to become closer and this is your wish, then go.. IF not, then let her know that you have another engagement that you already committed to.... then from that point on, if you still wish to remain in contact, just try and keep in mind that the friendship is not what it once was and either you are ok with it (so you continue to just talk on the phone) or you gradually let it go and unwind itself..