So I am in need of some creative ideas for mothers day. My mother in law passed away last July. My husband really does not sure much emotion about it but mentioned yesteday that he is not looking forward to Sunday. I am trying to think of a way we can do something for his mom as a family. It would be our family and my sister in laws. I was thinking of something we can make a tradition. She was donated to science so we dont have a place to go visit now.
Thanks for any ideas.
S.
My MIL's mother passed away several years ago. It has become a tradition with her, me and my kids to buy Happy Mothers Day balloons and send them to her (release them into the sky). My youngest wasn't even born yet, but she knows who we are sending them too.
My MIL... when her Husband died, planted an Olive tree in her garden... to honor her Husband. The Olive tree is symbolic of peace. And it is a really pretty tree. She planted it, in a special place in her yard. And that is where she goes to, "see" him.
If you have a yard, you can do that perhaps.
And perhaps decorate it during the holidays.
Your Husband is still grieving. Does not look forward to that day. But that is normal.
When it it is Father's Day, I get sad too, because my Dad died several years ago. I don't have a Dad anymore.
I would see, what your Husband is wanting. Rather than, what his WHOLE family wants.
Maybe, perhaps, your Husband may only want to be by himself with you and your kids. Not others? That is also, a possibility. And is common. Maybe your Husband needs a personal way... to honor his Mom. And it can be HIS "tradition." Not it having to do with EVERYONE. I too, didn't want to be among others, while I felt sad about my late Dad. I only wanted my, nuclear family. Or myself. It is very personal.
Thus, I would see what your Husband's wishes are.
It should be him, that decides.
I think the tree idea is lovely. My employer's wife passed away a year and a half ago...on the anniversary and her birthday they release balloons that they've written messages with sharpie markers on.
I've recently noticed there are lots of companies that sell these: http://www.eventlanterns.com/. (think Rapunzel's lanterns in "Tangled")....I think that would be a beautiful and unusual way to honor someone. (if that link doesn't work...google "floating lantern".
We normally cook Food they like(passed away persons) on that day, invite friends and relatives and wish them (passed away person) To rest in peace,,
I love the idea of having a family picnic and sending her balloons with little messages on them to Heaven.
Our friends have a nice tradition that involves the kids, too. They write a note to their grandpa, tie it to a balloon, and let the balloon go. Maybe you could try a version of that? I'm sorry for your husband's loss, and hope you find a way to help him.
Happy Mother's Day to you, too, S.!
S.
We usually gather for big cookout, where everyone is invited.. Inlaws and Outlaws.. is what we usually say.
We send out the time.. and tell what we are each bringing.
It is a great very laid back way for us all to get together. Paper plates.. etc..
The kids run around and play games and all of the mothers who have passed are mentioned during grace.. And each mom that attends receives a flower.
My mother died when I was young and so to keep her memory alive I wrote a letter to all my mom's siblings, my siblings, my mom's friends, etc and asked them to write a note about some of their favorite memories of my mom. Then I copied them all and put them in a 3 ring binder and every Mothers day we read one of the notes so my kids can get to know my mom in their own way.
