Mooooooom! You're emBARRassing Me!

My boys who are 17 and 18 never went through that phase. My daughter, who is 14, simply says, 'Mom, dirt'. Don't know what that means but I'd imagine it's a notification of some kind of inappropriate behavior on my part. Get this, I ROLL MY EYES AT HER WHEN SHE SAYS IT!

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I was embarrassed simply to have parents (umm, I did know that all my friends had them too but that really didn't help). Somehow I survived and so did my parents. We get along great now.

Patience.

At 9, he's starting it a little early, but you can be reassured that by something like 18 he will no longer be embarrassed by you.

Was "it's my job" really all that bad? I actually think it's kind of a good answer. :)

Ouch. I've always done lots of reading. The best parenting books I could find. The ones that have most recently topped my list, and which you'll find useful for the amazing information they offer, are How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Faber and Mazlish, (there's also a teen version), and Nurture Shock, New Thinking About Children, by Po Bronson & Ashley Merryman, a downright amazing exploration of why so much of what we believe about raising kids is just plain wrong. (I've loaned my copy to my son-in-law, a very discerning reader, and he is wowed by the book.)

The wisdom in these books won't totally restore your son into the adoring child you're used to, but they will help you understand some things from his point of view that will better equip you to face the next few years. Your connection will improve, at least over whatever it would be without this wise coaching.

My daughter started in with some of the typical adolescent-teen 'tudes about the time I married her step-father, when she was 11. Life was sometimes rough for all of us, and even more so when we foster-parented a troubled friend of hers when the girls were 13. That manic arrangement lasted the better part of a year before I realized it was going to totally break our family. There were some unfortunate wedges that persisted, but they did get much better when Foster Child was placed with a more experienced family.

The thing that will carry you through is the love and close bonding you have already established with your son. He's entering a phase of his life in which he's going to think he simply knows more than you, no matter what evidence suggests otherwise.

But there will be times he knows how much he loves and needs you, too, especially as you give him opportunities to make his own inevitable mistakes. Those little blessed islands of love and connection will probably be enough to carry you through. And eventually, he will emerge into adulthood, and he'll be able to relax and appreciate you again.

I'm wishing you both the best.

"It's just one more service I offer" or "Now you know how it feels". I don't say either unkindly, but kids get embarrassed over silly things, like your shoes or your hair or that you said you like a band that was so 5 minutes ago. As long as you aren't rolling through the mall in your pjs (or your lingerie) then weigh what it's really about. My SS claims he doesn't remember this, but when he was about 12, he would orbit us at about a 20 ft radius and only come near us at the mall when he wanted money for food. We laugh about it now, but we were no more embarrassing then we are now. He was just more sensitive.

when my daughter was 6 I was "ruining her life" lol. i think i wouldnt let her watch something on tv. :)

If you want a laugh go look at my wedding pictures, specifically the garter toss. If you flip through them fast you can actually see my 12 year old cover his face and keep it covered and my 23 year old turn and face the wall until the garter was retrieved.

I about died laughing when I noticed that in the back ground. Better yet show it to your son so he understands real embarrassment.

LOL! I had a moment like this yesterday. I got my 4 year old a pair of crocodile shaped crocks. I thought they were so cute!
On the way to swimming lessons he kept taking them off, which really got old. Sooo I asked him if they were uncomfortable and he said "No, they're not cool and I don't want anyone to see me wearing them because I am embarrassed "
WHAT??? Nothing like that has ever come out of his mouth before and I was in total shock. I guess I will just exchange the shoes for a different pair. As long as this does not become a running problem I can respect it.

My 17 yr old son never did much of that; my 14 yr old son has moments when I feel like Quasimodo. :P I try to respect his machismo but I don't let him be disrespectful. It's funny because he is very loving towards me when it comes right down to it, but he does not appreciate being "embarrassed" in front of other teens (even though I don't feel I did anything embarrassing LOL).

My favorite is drop-off at karate where I'm not allowed to say a word once the car door opens (no "I love yous" should EVER be even whispered, much less stated aloud).

Your son seems a bit young for it but it was a gradual process for us, so it may have started about then and I didn't notice.

Hmmm, my teen's fav phrase is, "OMG, you're so immature".

I now try to coax the phrase from him....I consider it my due!

Seriously, I say to him, "come on, say it! Say it! I won't stop until you say it!" Drives him nuts.....& that's a goooood thing.

My boys are 16 and 17 now, and I will tell you it will come full circle. They do need me and I have regained much of my wonder woman status lost between the ages of about 11-15. It does sting the first time they express their embarrassment or turn away from a touch, but there is a balance to be struck. I learned to respect their boundaries and wishes for the most part, but you can be darn sure mom was still mom when the occasion called for it or things got too fussy. My boys were never too bad with this phase, and there was no issue or concern of them not wanting or needing me, it just became more of a fine balance between "momming" them and being a mom/parent. Even though he may be mortified suddenly by things you've done or said forever, there is no love or respect lost, and you are still #1 in his mind and heart, but don't expect him to let you see these feelings, especially in front of his friends, lol! - but you'll feel them and know them nonetheless.

Sorry, don't really understand your post. Are you saying you think your 9 year old is getting close to himself, that's why he's staying in bed, and you think it's too young? Or you would just like him to get up earlier?

Most children are embarrassed by their parents, even if it's as simple as giving them a kiss or hug in public or more selfishness or lack of understanding, such as our car isn't as nice as Bobby's family car.

Sooner or later most outgrow this.

Blessings...

We're just getting there. My son is 8 and I've heard it a few times. He also likes to tell me what IS and IS NOT "cool"! Really? LOL

starting this year when my daughter started first grade, i could no longer kiss her or hug her or say that i loved her.

your post reminded me of my mom and us 4 kids. she used to wear her curlers with a kerchief on her head, drive her station wagon backwards before she could drive it forwards. then she would roll down the window, throw her elbows in the air duck her head out the window and howl like a wolf. my older sister would hit the ground of the car so fast!!!