Mom Needs Advice on Explaining Half Siblings Mom

I was just wondering if you've ever tried to contact the other mom? It sounds like your a very caring person. Maybe you could talk to her mother to mother. Share with her that your main concern is the girls and that they may be missing out on a wonderful relationship with their sister.

I'm sorry I don't have much advice on how to explain it to your girls, except maybe telling them that grow ups do strange things and that they may have to wait for awhile to get to know their sister, like when she's 18 and can make the deicsion for herself.

sorry i'm not more help. hope it works out.

B.

HI,
It seems you have a problem that won't be easy to solve. But, I'd be honest with the kids about everything, they can handle it, just say it the way you want them to take it. As far as
Dad not being able to see his daughter,, he may have to let the courts decide that, it's not all on Mom ds to whether she wants her daughter to be seen by anyone. Besides, like you said, it's their daughter, not just hers. She's being very selfish and jealous. You sound very level headed, do what you feel is right. Please let him know he can get visitation.
Onterested to know thingsd work out, let me know okay?

K. hi W., i can say only to be honest with your girls and explain in ways they can understand. and i would wait for them to ask a question that way you only have to explain what they are asking. hope that helps.

I have a uncle that had this kind of problem. I went to his son. I found him at his home town and I told him that I wuz his cuz and who his dad wuz. Maybe when the time is right your children will talk to her. And tell them how much they love her and miss her and then show her everything that you have collected for her. If she is 12 she is almost old enough to make desecion on her own. Maybe you can find a friend of hers and have them tell her. I hope this helps. Good luck. You and your family is in my prayers if you still wanna talk I would be happy to talk to you. Also my mother in law went threw the same thing she has not had her son since he wuz 3. He just turned 14 and he now lives with her. She kept calling until one day he answered she told him who she wuz and asked him not to hang up. It wuz his choice to hear what she had to say she told him everything. and he started calling her and they repaired there relationship. I hope this helps

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom married my step-dad when I was 8. He has 2 daughers from his first marraige, one that is just a couple months older than me. Their mom wouldn't let them have anything to do with their dad (they divorced when the youngest was about 6). She convinced the girls he didn't love them anymore and loved me now, which needless to say was not true, and an absolutely horrible thing to tell your kids. We know all this now because his girls slowly came back into our lives after he had a heart attack a few years ago (I"m 29, and the oldest is 32)....and they've told us all the things their mom said to them.
Anyway, at the time, at age 8, my mom just pretty much told me that their mother was very hurt and very sad by getting divorced, and wanted to hurt my step-dad's feelings, so she kept the kids away. She explained it to us like we should feel sorry for her, not hate her. We always bought them gifts, just like you do, sent cards, etc.
Maybe you could take that approach. It's being honest without turning the other mom into a witch (that in reality she may be). In the end, when his daughter gets older, she may realize that she's been cheated out of this relationship by her mom and come back around. Short of her doing that, it doesn't sound like there's much you can do.
Hope this helps~A.

You don't need to bad mouth her mom to tell the truth. You went to court and her mom asked the judge to grant her wish and because you couldn't afford to fight it she got her wish. back that statement up with, "She did what she thought would be easiest for her and her daughter. She may not have done the right thing but we can't change it."

I'm in the same boat. My oldest turned 18 last month and from the time my middle boy was old enough to talk he's talked about his Special Friend Jr. Turning his brother into an imaginary friend. We held out hope for years that he would want to contact us when he had the age and wisdom to choose. We even made contact outside the courts last year but we haven't had a positive response. It kills me not knowing him outside of my memories, not being allowed to actually be known outside of what his family told him but there's nothing I can do to change it, so far. Some children never make contact on purpose.

Be sure to include her in your prayers and have the girls and dad do the same. You can tell them there's a plan to go to court when the girls are older but if you never do then it looks like you lied. I kept saying, This year's tax return or that lawsuit settlement but we never got enough money due to back taxes and debts to actually do it.

I am in sort of the same boat. Except the child is my oldest who is 9. We were able to see him and talk to him all the time until his father got married and the step-mother won't let us see or talk to him. I raised my son for 3.5 yrs by myself and I fought for 2 of those yrs to keep him alive. I wish I had the money for an attorney to get him back. I know this has got to be had on your husband as well as your children. All of my kids know their brother so it is extremely hard on them. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.