Pelvic health & childbirth : what every woman needs to know / Magnus Murphy, and Carol L. Wasson ; foreword by Linda Brubaker.
2003? I read this and I think it was eye opening. I tell you about it because it was very scientific and had no opinions at all, or barely. I could not tell where the author stood on natural birthing or anything, anything at all. I read only facts and I have to be honest... they scared me! It was something I later got to talk to a physical therapist about since she was helping me with my pelvic pain/lower back pain because my tummy muscles acting like a belt were too lose in the front and caused tons of pregnant back pain.
I learned things in this book that rarely happen to women like me, 26 at the time and fit, good weight. A healthy active, low stress pregnant woman eating her way to a healthy baby and staying fit should not need to worry about what this book said at any age older age even. I actually went from wanting a c-section then after reading it, never ever wanting one voluntarily to preserve my body and to take better care of my uterus for future babes. I think I really got paranoid because of some really hard core episiotomy stories that came my way. Oh and how to avoid one is to... well a pregnancy yoga DVD my teacher made is a great way! She is out of purple yoga. But you need to do your kegals, and take it all the way up to your tummy. Do them at red lights and 10 after you pee or something like that.
The best book that toped it all was "Birthing from within" for me, but really it was only other book I read while pregnant (Thank God!). It spoke about a lot of beautiful parts of birthing, baby in belly, and well.... it spoke to me. I got the tribal internal feeling that was actually the biggest, best helper for me during labor. I got strong in my spirit as well as nutrition and body. This strong spirit was not about to stop any C-section to save my life, no, no, but it was the spirit that made me draw a mother holding a baby on my minimal birth plan, that is actually a great piece of memorabilia, and have my baby naturally after 24 hours of labor in a hospital, he was 9.24 lbs! I went into a trance and let my body do what it knows how to do. I relaxed during the contraction, stood and swayed or leaned on someone and let my whole body shake by my shaking uterus shaking him down and out. I ended up on my shins and knees swaying my tail back and forwards, holding on to the top of the bed (it was sitting up in the back). My OB was the best and he let me do my thing even though the nurse (at this birth) was trying to get me to lay down on my back. Laying on my back was the worst place for my body and slowed down my labor tons.I could tell you the whole thing.. pm if you want all the details.
My biggest best realization was this laboring African woman holding out her hand to me and inviting me into a field. Probably nothing like what they really do, but in my mind it broke down all the "information" that is brought to birth about peoples bodies that are...well not mine. I realized I could do this. This beautiful biological act that connects me now with millions of years of birthing of all the mama animals.
But after all that, I do think a quick read about a c-section is a great idea for all mothers! If it happens so many have huge pains about the event when they had planned a very different experience. My briefing on it made me comfortable... I mean that isn't to say, I could even fathom how they feel emotionally about that kind of birth though.
I am sorry this was so long!