J.B.
Hi! I'm on the opposite end of the question as I've worked at both day care, preschools and now am a nanny. I have an AA degree in Early Childhood Education and continued my education after that.
I worked at a great day care center and I loved the staff and kids alike, but that being said, I wouldn't leave my own children there til the kids could communicate and talk.
I would strongly - extremely strongly - recommend AGAINST placing an infant in a day care setting no matter how nice or how pricey it is. The MI state ratio for infants is 1 caregiver to 3 babies. That's like having triplets and I don't know anyone who has had triplets that doesn't have extra help those first few months.
I'm writing waaayy more about this than you want and I'm not doing so to offend anyone who has their child in a day care center that is their choice, but as someone who has worked the day at a day care center it may be a tad different than what you would think.
The thing I would highly recommend is to ask the day care center if you can sit in on the infant room all day long to observe (don't help because that won't give you an honest idea of what it is like). I highly doubt that they would allow you to do that, but that is the best way to get a realistic view of how things would really work.
My take on day care - condensed since I keep typing (I feel strongly about this can you tell!) - is that you can have the best teachers in the world but aren't highly educated and they have to go by state guidelines and they are outnumbered. When there are three babies screaming they are going to try to deal with one at a time meaning your little one may be crying for longer than you would prefer and sure isn't going to get the individual attention you want.
The other aspect of this is that the caregivers change (they say they won't but they do...ask the workers based on ratios in other classes and the such). That makes a difference because you want your infant to develop trust and feel secure. Since they are more apt to change caregivers, your child will not get the benefit of having the same person and even if they have the same person for the first shift, they won't for the second shift. Your baby may have 4 or so different caregivers in the course of one day.
What I would highly recommend is to have a nanny or a home care provider who will come to your home. They may be more expensive but well worth it in the long run. Your child won't have to leave your home and will be surrounded by his or her own toys, belonging and in the comfort of his oer her own house. Your child will be able to have lots of individual attention and the schedule that you desire for him or her. YOu also will have someone who knows your baby.
People worry about interaction but studies will well back up that stability in having one primary caregiver who is able to provide your baby with security is the best. Interaction with other kids can be arranged with playdates and the such and when the baby is older, he or she can play wtih the neighbors.
I would suggest that you take lots of time now to interview nannies, place ads at the local colleges/universities and attempt to find an in your home caregiver who will stay wtih your baby and provide quality care.
Another option would be to go to enannysource.com or nannies4hire.com or christiannanny (or something like that). The family that I nanny for found me at enannysource.com . I highly recommend that.
I'll be praying that you find the best care possible for your baby and that you are confident in whatever choice you pick.
If you have any questions please don't hesitate to email me!