Is It Really Wrong to Move My Newborn to His Own Room?

My husband made me move my three week old to her own room for just those reasons. Everytime she moved I woke up, thereby causing everyone to lose sleep.

Don't feel bad, go ahead and move the baby.

I would do it! I have a 15 month old that had taken my bed over because I didn't do it lol. Its much easier when they are smaller!

It's fine to move him to his room. Leave his door open or leave the baby monitor on. It'll be fine. Kudos to you that he is sleeping through the night so early.

Dawn

Moi.

My son HATED his bassinet. HATED cosleeping.

We had a crib in 'his' room all set up (along with a Lazboy rocker), and at about 3 weeks... and no sleep... I set him in his crib "just for a moment" because I needed my arms, and he CONKED out. For hours.

This kid has just ALWAYS needed his own space. As long as he could stretch his arms out and not touch anything (me, the walls of the bassinet, whatever), he'd sleep like a dream.

HINT: Don't be quiet around sleeping babies. If you're noisy/ go about your business... you'll wake them occasionally for about a week. Then they sleep through ANYTHING.

My kids were in their own rooms from the day they came home. They were fine. Im sure he will be too.

Of course it's not wrong to have him in his own crib/room.

I think you've gotten a lot of great perspectives but just wanted to add my perspective, too. While we don't know what causes SIDS and no one can guarantee a surefire way to prevent it, there are known factors that significantly raise or reduce the risk (here's the most recent scientific research: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/128/5/e1341.... Having your infant in the room with you but not in your bed is one of the things that reduces risk, but is not the only one. The research suggests it can reduce the risk by up to 50%. You have to decide if this factor is worth it for you or not.

I moved my daughter when she was about a month old to her own room. And I didn't have a monitor on because I couldn't sleep with it. She's fine and we both slept better. If you want to move him, go ahead. My only worry would be him disturbing the older brother.

Both of my boys were in their own room from the day they came home from the hospital. I would go in his room to nurse, rock and put him back to bed. We never had to deal with the transition from cradle to crib. I had a monitor and was very aware of all of his actions. But, my husband and I had a lovely sleep together just the two of us! It's definitely not for everyone, but it is definitely a-okay!

My kids all behaved differently. Two of them never lived in our bedroom, one slept in our room for a few weeks, and one would not sleep unless she was with us until she was several months old. Do whatever is best for your family, and don't worry about others. (Someone will ALWAYS disagree, no matter what you do.)

Mothers are biologically designed to wake up at 'every little funny breath sounds, snorts, etc" - just as the baby is biologically designed to use his Mother's breathing and heart sounds to regulate her own.

SIDS occurs more often when babies are away from their Mothers, especially the first 3 months. I'd google 4th trimester if I were you. I hope you didn't waste 10 months of your life bringing a child into the world just to force it into an adult's schedule. Infants are not and never will be miniature adults.

I'm having my baby on thursday and she will be in her own room from day one. not saying anything bad about co-sleeping but i did that with my son and almost 6 years later i still struggle to keep him in his room! and i don't want my daughter to be the same way. i would try it and see how he does and how you do. its not going to do either of you any good if your stressed out all night, and worried. good luck:)

I have a friend who moved her son to his own room when he was about that age. She wasn't getting any sleep and this allowed them both to be well rested. My only concern would be for the brother. Right now you wake up with the baby. Is it going to be a problem if he wakes the brother up in the middle of the night and you have to get them both back to sleep?

The concept of in-room sleeping is for the comfort of the parents. You are not bad to let him sleep in his crib. :)

Uh, no, it's not really wrong. Who is telling you that?

Rule #1 of parenting, you do what feels right for your child, and your family, period. What everyone else says is secondary.

DD slept in a bassinet for the first 3 months until we felt the time was right. And we ALL slept better once she moved to her room.

Everyone has a story & advice. You have to do what works for you.

My husband wouldn't sleep in the same room with the baby, he was afraid he would wake her with his snoring. When she was 3 weeks old he begged me to put her in her own room so he could sleep in bed with me instead of on the couch. I slept better with his snoring and the baby monitor then I did that whole time the baby was in the room with me.

My worry would be about him spitting up too much and not be able to expell all of it from his mouth/throat. When I was born (1974) doctors recommended parents to place newborn on their side (to help things out), but nowadays they want us to lay babies on their back (which I did with my son). It still worried me to death, so I kept my baby in his bassinet by my bed, but I DID wake up to every little noise he made! I think it's really up to you and how you feel. If you have a really good monitor, maybe that's a good compromise.

My daughter slept in her crib in her room from day 1.

There was a day bed in the room and occasionally when she was very young, I would lay in there a little while but like other moms have said, there is really nothing you can do to prevent SIDS. You just have to have faith and live your life as best you can.

First night home, all four went right to their crib. They make so many noises you think they are waking up/ When in own room/crib you hear them
when they are ready to get up and be fed. You are not jumping up at each
little sound.

Whatever works for you and your family. I didn't do it. I hated the monitor, which made more noise than having her breathing right beside me. I would have been awake all night hearing the static and trying to hear her breathing through that. When I was within arms reach of her, we both slept well.

My first nephew died of SIDS at 3 months. I was 19 years old and was the first one after his parents to see him lying dead in his crib. That may have affected my parenting style, 22 years later. I needed the reassurance of her close to me.

My first two babies were 9 1/2 months apart--one adopted and one bio. I kept my newborn in my room for about 3 nights and then that crib went to the other bedroom with my other little girl. I am such a light sleeper that her little snorts kept me awake all night!!! Believe me, he will let you know if he needs you! I reared 5 children and none of mine ever slept in my room. They are all healthy adults today.

My son started sleeping in his own room on day 2 or three. I too can't sleep when they are in my room. I hear every noise they make and freak out. And no, if SIDS was going to happen, there is not anything you can do.

I think if YOU can handle it then why not? I am the type that needs them there beside me to make sure all is okay but if you feel okay with them in their crib then go for it. I know when I finally let go and put her in her own crib instead of the bassinet next to me that it was way harder on me than her. She was about 3 months when we started using her crib for naps and then it was probably closer to 5 months when I was thinking okay I have to let go and start using her bed instead of this pack n play. I joked with my husband that I would get her there eventually by just wheeling the pack n play a bit farther away from our bed and down the hall until she was in her own room lol. I am due with number 2 in a few weeks and I plan to have her with me as long as need be too. I am also breastfeeding so having them with me just makes life that much easier
Good Luck

Ultimately, it is up to you. My kids slept in a bassinette for a month or so, depending on how large they were. That was mostly for convenience...

Also.... don't worry about making noise, or having to be quiet around the baby. The earlier they get used to everyday noises in the house when they sleep, the better off everyone will be. Of course, the alarm would be loud... but normal noises and talking shouldn't be a problem.... if a child has to have complete quiet to go to sleep, they will find it harder as they grow up, learning to block out the noises of every day life.

One time, one of my kids was asleep in the playpen and I was vacuuming about 6 feet away from her, and it didn't wake her up at all! At that point, there were other kids in the family, so it wasn't a quiet household.

Of course it is not "wrong." It is one of those parenting choices we all have to make. If you are comfortable with it and baby gets some good sleep, it may well be the right choice for you. This is a bit of a lightning rod question, as people have some pretty strong opinions on the topic. I kept my babies in bed with me because that felt right for me, but plenty of people think I was "wrong." Try it, see how it feels, then decide if it is right for you. You can always bring him back to your room if you don't like it.

Ask your doctor.

A friend's baby died of SIDS while sleeping in a bassinet right next to her bed, about an hour after she had breastfed him, so probably you couldnt do anything.

My children slept in a bassinet next to my bed for 3-4 months. I liked being able to roll over and touch them, listen to them, but was DEFINTELY sleep deprived for months and months and months. My kids didnt sleep through the night until they were 18 months, though.

I'd check with your doctor.

I think you do what is best for your family.

As far as SIDS goes, what my pediatrician told me is that the highest risk of SIDS is from birth to 4 months. Co-sleeping (defined as sleeping in the same room, bed sharing is NOT a requirement for cosleeping) lowers the risk of sids because the infant also hears your breathing and russling around and therefore sleeps less deeply, and the lighter sleep helps prevent SIDS (along with eliminating other risk factors like second hand smoke and such).

Due to this information, both of my DDs slept in their pack-n-plays in our room until 4 months old. When we transitioned them to their own room, the pack-n-play went with them (we have never owned a crib), so they were used to their bed already and did not have that additional adjustment. Still, it is really annoying to have a infant sleeping in the same room (to me at least, I know some parents enjoy it) so do what works for you!

My son went from his bassinet to his crib at 3 weeks old... I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you have a monitor :)

i think your baby will be fine. i moved my daughter out of our room when she was waking up once a night (that was at 3-4 months). as long as your comfortable with it and you use the monitor the baby will be ok. i think your right as far as sids go. if its going to happen it will happen. but if your baby has good head control (when laying on the tummy) it will be less likely to suffer from sids also if the baby has had no issues remembering to breathe..

I am one of the moms that needed to hear every noise. I had them in my room for 2-3 months. When they grew out of the cradle, i moved them into their crib (in their room). I think i would sleep less and would be up checking constantly, if they were not in my room.

I know plenty of people who did this. It's not for me - I wanted my baby right there next to me at all times and couldn't have slept myself if he was away from my sight. But I also never had a son who slept through the night. Maybe times where he'd sleep 4 - 6 hours at best. But he was usually up every 3 hours or more in the beginning. I also remember that whatever his pattern was, it would change all the time. Then again I have friends whose babies got into a real pattern. I was so jealous! If your baby is sleeping that long, and you feel comfortable, then why not give it a try?
Just curious, why the fan?

We have four children and every single one of them have slept in their own room. We do not use a monitor either. Their bedrooms have always been very close to our bedroom, so it has been quite easy to hear the baby cry. I would get up and change the baby, feed him, burp him and put him back in his crib, much like Krista C. It helps keep our bed, our bed.

I have to agree with your comment about SIDS. Although extremely scary, and utterly devestating, is there really anything that anyone can do to "prevent" it? We have loved keeping our bed to ourselves, and never once have we had the problem of a transition. Plus, the hubby and I sleep much better. Sleep is such a precious thing, especially with a new baby, you should fight for the best you can get at all times.

I think he'd be just fine! Soon-if he stays in your room-you will all be "cueing"
off each other-and then no one will be sleeping!

My son never slept in our room. Basinett in his room, then crib in his room. We have a very happy 3.5 yr old now who still sleeps happily in his own bed. (We cuddle at naptime and sometimes in the morning when he wakes me up).

Update us and let us know how it went moving him!

I would be more nervous about having a newborn sleep in a room with a sibling. If it was his own room, not so much a concern. I kept my oldest in our room til 2 months. She was no longer waking up to eat at that point and her room was right next door so we could hear if she cried. We did not use a monitor. For the second, I kept him in my room in a cosleeper longer. He was still getting up to nurse a couple of times a night and I was back to work, so I couldn't bear the thought of actually getting up a couple of times a night to feed him. During the couple of months of my maternity leave, I napped him in his crib so that it was familiar to him and he continued to nap there on weekends

I waited until about six weeks. You're going to be up and down through the night for a while anyway, if you are nursing, might as well him him closer to you for a while.

However, your his mommy and must do what is best for the baby and the rest of your family.

Congratulations!

SIDS, currently, is unpreventable, whether baby is in your room or not.

Get the Angelcare Deluxe Movement monitor: WORTH EVERY PENNY!

But no, for your sanity, it's best to move baby to their own room if you're ready, REALLY.

I have 3 kids and have had a friends baby pass away from SIDS at my place; SIDS has me totally f*cked up, BUT, it didn't make me screw up my kids!

PM me if you need more info, but if you're ready (and it sounds like you most definitely are)... move that baby into his own room! You'll BOTH start getting some sleep :)

Wow, I am amazed at all the mamas that have their babies in their own rooms so early! I thought so many people were like cosleepers and all these days. I am in the middle, I like my babies with me until about 3 months. I have always heard/read that babies just thrive better when they are closer to their mothers in the beginning. They were just inside you, so having you near, your smell your sounds is so comforting and reassuring to them. So that is why I do it. But I break other 'rules' like I let my second and third babies tummy sleep and that solved any and all sleep issues at our house. It is hard to wake when they scrump, but then you get so tired that you can tune it out. I think if you do move your baby, which you probably already have bc I am so late!, you may want to consider one of those crib tents to prevent your other child from getting the baby if he cries or from getting in the crib etc. Of course this is assuming your other child is very young, so it may or may not even be an issue. Good luck whatever you decide!

The only babies that slept in our room were the ones waiting for the sibling to be a bit older to put them in a shared room. I think they sleep so much better and through the night earlier and you sleep so much better. Most houses are not so big, even big ones, that you can't hear a baby cry if they wake. As for SIDS, it was after my kids were born that it became the big focus and all but one of my kids slept on stomachs, sides or whatever. There were no flat heads or helmets and I didn't 'worry' all the time like mothers have to these days. It was so wonderful to enjoy our babies. I think if you want your baby in his own bed I would put him there. How old is his brother? That might be my concern if he's very young and not in a crib. But you know your children and I would do it.

I was never comfortable with it. But that's just me. I did hear my grandson and go in and check on him a lot and he was across the hall from me.

As far as sids goes... I bet you could do a lot. I personally believe that if a person is near, sleeps light, never takes sleeping pills or booze, then it's quite possible that the Holy Spirit would alert you and you would be able to call 911 in time. But who knows?

I don't think its wrong. put a baby monitor in and your fine. I had my kids in the bassinet til I knew they would sleep good. as soon as that happened off they went into the other room. I had boys 15 months apart. they were in the same room by the time the oldest was about 1 and a half

My son slept in his own room from when he came home from the hospital. He never had a problem sleeping - we put him on his back to sleep in a sleep sac, no blanket, pillow or loose bedding, etc. We did not use a baby monitor - the boy was LOUD. The current 'best' recommendation is a crib or bassinet in your room - rates of SIDS are lowest with the baby not co-sleeping but in the same room. The issue is not thought to be 'monitoring' but that a baby in the same room sleeps and rouses differently. However, the risk of SIDS in a baby put on their back, no bedding, cool temperature, is still very low.

My children never slept in our room. We had twins first, so there was absolutely no way two bassinets could fit into our bedroom. So, we started them out in their cribs from the day they came home from the hospital. They've always been great sleepers, and I think it's because of this. So, when my daughter was born this summer, we did the same thing. I thought about taking our extra crib and putting it in the basement in our new bedroom but decided to stick with what worked for my sons.

There are so many things to consider.
My first 2 had their own rooms and were in their own cribs, but, because of the layout of the rooms, where the crib was and where my side of the bed is it only took me 10 steps at best to get to the side of their beds. We used a monitor on top of being so close. In the place we lived with my first there was no way we could fit somewhere for my son to sleep in our room. It took me less than 10 second to get to him. I could still hear him as if he were in the room with us, plus the monitor. The second place we had him in the closer room until his brother was born who got the closer room. The crib was immediately in the door, my side of the bed was closet to our door. Our third is in a crib in our room because we have no where else for her to fit. We need to move but can't.
If the baby's room was at the far end of the hall from your bedroom, at the other end of the house or on another floor from your room or something no way I would do it. When we were shopping before moving in to this house we turned down so many houses because the master bedroom was no where near the bedrooms for the kids. We only had one at the time but we knew we wanted more and the oldest wasn't very old at the time. The layouts were better for older kids.
I also would not have a newborn share a room with an older sibling. How is it fair to have the older sibling woken by all the things you don't want to be woken by? You do get used to the noises your baby makes and learn which are normal and which are not. My daughter is 2 1/2 and I am no longer woken by her rolling over or other normal things. I am only woke by the things that sound wrong. My mother instinct has worked them all out. She sleeps through my husband's alarm, he even sets 2 in case he sleeps through the first. Her crib is on his side of the bed so the alarm is by her bed. If the baby is around noise it won't bother them. Tip toeing around a baby is a bad habit to get into. My kids can sleep through so much and can sleep anywhere. 2 of my kids are regulars at sleeping through attractions at Disneyland to give you an idea.
If you're really worried about SIDS you can get a mat they sleep on that monitors them or something. Having them sleep in your room is not a guarantee that nothing will happen to them.

I know how you feel. It is hard to answer this. My friend lost her grandson to SIDS, well it was caused by RSV. The mom had taken the baby to the doc less than 12 hours before and the doc had just given a prescription and sent him home.

The mom was nursing him, the older child was sitting next to her watching cartoons. She burped the baby and laid him down by her other leg and he just stopped breathing. There "is" nothing that can be done.

Since going through this experience with them I have had an extremely hard time sleeping with little ones in the house. I fought sleep night after night after night just to sit reading or watching TV quietly so I could hear every breath. It is hard to go through. They had to be right next to me so I could keep watch....

My opinion is that having the baby in your room makes it easy for the other child to sleep. Your baby won't always sleep through the night, that is uncommon at this age. When the baby wakes up he will most likely wake the other child too and then you have 2 to put back to sleep and I bet hubby won't get up to help since he has to be up so early.

Normal noise in the bedroom would of course wake the baby up but some noise should be okay. They need to be used to some or every little thing will wake them up.

Lots of people have their baby in the crib in it's own room from day one. It is your choice to do what feels right for you.

Dont let people scare you or impose their beliefs on you. Definately move your baby if you are both ready for it. I think my son slept in pack n play in our room for a coupel of weeks, but then to his own room/crib. I simply see no harm in this, only benefits. I was sleeping SO MUCH BETTER instantly and he got accustomed to becoming a great sleeper.

Well, my first daughter slept with me until she was close to 3!
But I was single and we live in a one bedroom room, so no where to go anyway.
My second was on her own bed around 2 or 3 months.
We had the monitor and left her door open, no lights, by that time she use to sleep almost all night and we all got a good sleep, for a while.