This weekend my boyfriend and I are going to house sit for my grandma. I want to do something special for him Saturday night to remind him how much I really appreciate and love him. He is a wonderful father to our 10 month old son, and an amazing boyfriend. We've been together for a little over 2 and a half years. We don't get much time alone. He lives an hour away, so we only get to see each other on the weekends. When we do see each other, we are either surrounded by his family or mine. This will be the first time we are going to be alone in a long time, and I want it to be special. I was thinking of maybe cooking him a special dinner, and renting a movie that he really wants to see... But I want to do more. I just can't think of anything else. Do you ladies have any suggestions?
Also, after being looked at by my regular doctor and a specialist a doctor at a free clinic finally found out why sex is still hurting for me so long after childbirth. The episiotomy didn't heal correctly! Anyways, she wanted me to rub some vitamin e jelly on the area every night for 2 weeks and wait for have sex until those 2 weeks were up.... Would it hurt to wait to start that treatment until after this weekend?
If he is a wonderful father to your 10 month old son, AND you think he is wonderful enough to stay "connected" with AND you think he is really committed to you, then hire a preacher and get married just before your grandma leaves. Then you have the weekend for a honeymoon.
If he is NOT really committed, then don't do that.
Good luck to you and yours.
Sounds like you have a nice evening planned... dinner, movie, massage maybe. As for the other question- call your doctor and ask. Whatever answer she gives you, you really need to go along with. You don't want to make a "bad" situation worse!
I am sure, your Boyfriend, will understand your medical requirements now. After all, your episiotomy did not heal well. That is important to get it treated.
You can do other things, for him, besides sex. Just explain to him about what your Doctor said. You don't want to make your medical issues, worse. Or it will be worse.
Being your Boyfriend is really a great sounding guy, as you describe him, I am sure he will understand.
What you have planned is nice.
Or maybe additionally, write him a really cute poem.
I did that for my Husband once, and he really liked it because I made it myself. Not bought.
You don't have to have intercourse to be intimate. You can do "other" things. I'm sure you know what I'm saying. And I'm sure your bf would be VERY happy! =)
Maybe instead of eating dinner at the table, make it picnic style in the middle of the floor or outside if weather allows. Pick some flowers, light a few candles. Maybe read him a letter you write him about how great you think he is.
OH!!! House sitting for grandma...maybe dress as little red riding hood and he's the big bad wolf....hahahahaha!!! Regardless, have fun and enjoy your time together! =)
Get married already. Show him that you can be fun AND responsible.
Granted I don't know anything about your situation, but if you have been dating for 2.5 years and have a child, the best thing to show your love is to make a commitment.
If you're waiting for something (new job, money, the dress to go on sale) forget it. A marriage license costs less than $100.
Well remember that you can take care of him in other ways ...... don't have to have that healed episiotomy. If it hurts, you won't enjoy sex anyways - so might as well take care of his needs in other ways if you know what I'm saying.
Dinner sounds nice. Don't forget some wine and some nice lingeree or cute panties & bra.
