You've got some great advice so far! I agree whole-heartedly with Mary Beth from Bryn Mawr. I think I understand how your husband feels because I'm in a similar situation (I'm the primary source of income and my hubby works part-time from home). I'm lucky because my hubby's pretty helpful around the house, and he's fairly emotionally independent. It is a little hard to come home and have to meet my daughter's needs right away (she likes to tell me all about her day the minute I walk in the door); I imagine I'd resent it if my husband similarly accosted me right away when I got home...
Anyhow, I'm a firm believer in the concept that we need to be proactive in getting our own needs met, and no one should rely entirely on one person for emotional support.
Just for a little perspective, here's what you said: "I have needs too. I never see my husband and all I want is to make use of the time we do have." Here's how that statement could easily be interpreted, with only subtle rearrangement of the words: "I never see my husband and all I want to do with the time I do have is get my own needs met."
While I recognize and appreciate that you have needs, I'd like to suggest that you should explore other support systems; many of the previous posts have offered good suggestions. At the very least, try picking up the phone and call a family member or a friend. It might be a good idea to make a point of calling someone to talk to just before your husband comes home so that you have a chance to communicate with another adult and it's easier to give your husband some down-time. Also, church is a good way to meet people. A lot of churches have transportation networks. I'm not religious, but if I were in your position, I'd look into finding a church family for a social network (Unitarian Universalists are good people and accepting of a lot of different religious perspectives, even atheism!).
Good luck!