Husband Hit Me for First Time I Have Special Needs Child

i'm sorry you've stayed so long in a bad situation. i get how scary it is, and how alone you must feel, and how overwhelming it would be to try to leave with a special needs 10 year old and no job.

it's a situation no one wants to find themselves in.

but here you are. and you really have no recourse but to get out, and that right soon. you are endangering yourself, and you are keeping you and more importantly your vulnerable son in a dangerous place by staying with a man who has the potential for violence.

go to a shelter. they will help you figure out the next steps. you need to divorce your husband, work out reasonable visitation (assuming he is indeed a dad who loves his son) and find work.

you can do this.

you must do this.

sending you strength.
khairete
S.

Please talk to a womens shelter - they can give some good information on what you need to do to plan your escape.

While it all seems so overwhelming right now, in your heart, you know you cannot stay in this horrible situation.

You CAN make the transition for you and your son to live a life free of violence and threats of violence.

See Diane B's advice and the number for the National Domestic Violence hotline at the end of her post. Once you have spoken with them, the next step will be to talk with the kind people in a women's shelter near you, as Suz T mentioned. They will help you get everything in order for a safe and successful exit plan.

Although it seems as if you are all alone, I can assure you, the wonderful sisterhood of strong women here are on your side. Some have been where you are and many know someone who has been where you are. Please call the hotline and take those first steps to building a better life for you and your dear son. You are a woman, a mom, and stronger than you know!

I am sorry you are going through this. First, don't give any information or plans about what you may do to your husband. He has shown himself to be an abuser.

When the bank is open, or if you have an ATM card, after your husband has gone tonwork, go withdraw some money to take care of you and your son. While your husband may be ordered to pay also alimony, you will needs funds now. Gather up and make copies of important documents- bank statements, birth certificates, etc, call the emergency domestic violence hotline. There is much no cost or low cost assistance for programs designed to help domestic violence victims. Go to an emergency shelter, the YWCA here offers one as well as the Women's Rescue Mission. You may want to check with a pro bono attorney about getting emergency custody of your son.

If he's high functioning then he's capable. You could work. He can go to after school care and hopefully be in the same building with the same kids.

You just have to stop your way of thinking.

How many single women do you have disabled kids that require even more care than your child? I imagine there are hundreds of thousands. Working and getting quality care for their child.

You need to find better resources and get a job so you can provide for your child. Call a local women's shelter and ask them how to leave your husband. Then they will provide you with a supportive safe place to be while you're sorting it all out.

Read what Wild Woman said.

Fear is stopping you. DO NOT let fear stop you from making decisions and getting out of a bad situation.