D.R.
Hi A.,
What we did (and still do) for my 3 year old son is this: I read him a story or two, then we cuddle in his bed and talk about our day and what we will be doing the next day, etc. Then I give him a hug and kiss and tell him that I have to do some laundry and/or dishes, and that I will be back in a few minutes to give more hugs and kisses. He cried at first, but since I had a younger daughter who was already in bed, I explained to him that if he cried, he would wake up his sister, and then I would have to take care of her and would not be able to come back in his room for more hugs and kisses. This always got him to stop crying. I would then go back in the room just 2 minutes later, and the next time I went back was in 5 minute increments. It did not take long before he fell asleep. Now, I go back into his room after 5 minutes (instead of 2) and then return in 10 minute increments (but he is almost always asleep before that first 10 minutes is up.) Oh, my son also sleeps with his lamp on. A lot of people would disagree with me there, but hey, whatever works for us, right? Good luck!