How to Explain a Breakup to a 4 Year Old

Katrina,

You are making too much of this. Do not use your four year old as an excuse to remain attached to this man. Your son is young and will get over this. When he brings the subject up, just say he had to move away, change the subject or do something that will distract your child.

You are 0 for two in the man department, so I suggest you concentrate on taking care of your child and stay off the dating scene for a while.

Anyone you have to walk on egg shells around and watch everything you say and do is not worth your time unless you are a total looser and need a lot of self-improvement. It doesn’t seem that this is the case with you.

The fact that your former boyfriend used a very vulgar term to describe you tells me that he should not be in your life or your child’s life.

When you are ready to date again, pick a man who has some self-respect and who will respect you.

Blessings…..

well first of all i have to say i understand your whole situation! Ive been married 6 years and I am a very jealous person and i did exactly what your boyfriend did to you although I have reasons for my snooping because when i first got married i was 17 young and my husband was 19 and he was young and stupid and screwed up a couple times anyways so i had trouble for a long time trusting him! and because i did not trust him it caused stupid fights all the time well finally i am over the whole jealousy thing for the most part I had to put all my issues behind me so i could trust him completely and now that i do we have never been happier! Jealousy is a horrible thing but alot of people have that problem! And You just have to tell your child that the ex. isn't going to be around because you are not getting along don't lie to your child just tell him in a way that is simple!

Do not EVER EVER EVER get back together with this Man.
He is dysfunctional, abusive and very toxic.
He will not change... do not let him manipulate you into being with him again.

When I was in college, I briefly dated a guy like that. I ended it. He then stalked me and harassed me and I had to file charges against him because he then became violent... and I got a restraining order against him.
He acted, exactly like your ex-Boyfriend did. Treated my like a 'dog' that he owned. But dogs get treated better than that. NO WOMAN.. deserves to be treated that way.
KNOW that.
Stay away from your Ex.

Your son, will be fine....
you raise him with values... teach him, that no one can treat you badly.

all the best,
Susan

Just tell him that you guys wont be seeing each other anymore because of some issues that you don't agree on, but don't worry we will always make more friends later. Then distract him by keeping him busy with activities and giving him lots of one on one cuddle time.

Just so you know, my husband and I had a very similar arguments when we were engaged (he was extremely jealous and protective)... but we've gotten over it though it took a little bit of time and have been happily married for almost 8 years now.

It sounds as if this man is not right for you. Jealousy is extremely hard to deal with, and can turn into abusive behavior.

I suggest that you get busy with your son. Have fun with him. Take him places, and do things with other people who are good role models for him. Get to know some friendly, stable families in your neighborhood. If you're a churchgoer, get both of you involved in activities in addition to Sunday worship. Fill in the "empty space" that is there right now.

You can gently explain to your son that your ex-boyfriend will not be coming over any more because he has decided he doesn't want to be friends with you any longer. Make certain your son knows that it wasn't HIS fault! He is not to blame. Grownups just do things like this.

The corollary to this, of course, is that this man can't just change his mind and come back into your life if and when it suits him. You can't allow it.

Wow. I'm sorry you are going through this. Sounds rough!!!

Not sure how to tell the little guy. Maybe tell him the guy is really busy, away for work, or something and that he will see him soon? Don't love hte idea of lying but am not sure how to explain this to a little boy either.