How Many People Did You Have at Your Baby Shower?

Obnoxious doesn't even begin to describe that. Sad that she is that emotionally, physically, of fiscally needy to go well beyond garish and tacky.

I think I had about 60ish (my MIL has LOTS of friends !LOL) I didnt even have 150 guests at my wedding ! WOW

omg, seriously? 150? That sounds so SELFISH to me!! No one...and I mean NO ONE has that many good friends! I think baby showers are supposed to be for people that are good friends and family. People you see and talk to on a regular basis.
To answer your questions....I had 7 friends, my mother and two SIL's. It was lovely.
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Honestly, I had three showers...
- My mother and sister threw one in FL and there were 20 women invited
- MIL/SIL had one in NY with about 20 women
- Colleagues threw a shower with around 30 women
All three were wonderful and intimate events that I think would have been impersonal and overwhelming if combined (and multiplied?).

I think 150 is excessive and quite honestly a little greedy- planning it herself? Even if both parents have HUGE families, this seems way out of the realm of "normal". I went to a shower a few years ago with nearly 100 people invited and it was really terrible- sit down dinner and literally an "assembly line" of gifts for over an hour. I pulled the "pregnancy card" and left early with my girlfriend who drove!

Like 30 maybe. Geez who all is she inviting? And your not supposed to prepare your own baby shower.

Wow! Mine was like yours - 20-30 people, coed and included kids. We played games and told baby stories and ate cake.

IMO 150 invites sounds really greedy......

This is a hard qusetion with out all the facts for me. I aagree that throwing your own shower is not really ok, but times are changing and and so do the rules, maybe this is one of them.

Depending on who your sis is or who she is married to she might not be able to help the size of the list. My husband has a job that puts him (and I) in direct close relationship with a lot of people. My shower they threw was big (around 40 people) the list was much larger though. Now we have moved jobs and have had our second child and even for the second it was big. I never expected a second shower or request one. People love to give.

I am not one that loves to be the center of attention. But sometimes you feel like you need to invite some one so that no one is left out.

Talk to your sister. Maybe even offer to help her throw it so it does not look like she is doing it herself. She can still help and do all the hard work if she or you wants.

150 is insane! Really? I cannot imagine asking that many people to ANY shower -they're supposed to be fairly intimate parties and you're supposed to OPEN THE GIFTS THERE! Seriously, people who don't open gifts at the showers disappoint 99% of the guests attending! THAT is what a shower is for -some friends and family get together to celebrate the impending arrival of a couple's child and "shower them" with goods that the baby will need. To ask 150 people is incredibly tacky and simply screams, "I WANT A BUNCH OF GIFTS -GIMMEE GIMMEE!" Of course if she's throwing it herself, she launched the tacky ship a long time ago!

20 is a good number. I had two showers -one at work and one thrown by friends that included some family as well. The work one had about 20 people and so did the friend/family one. Yes, I know a lot more people, but I think you should only ask those close to you, because you ARE asking them to bring a gift!

there were about 70 at mine. but it's typical in our family to have big parties...My MIL has many friends for whom she attended their kids baby showers and in turn, they all got invited to mine.
She was the main person hosting it so I had no problem with however many attended since she paid for it.. now IF the person hosting it is on a tight budget, then one must be respectful of that and invite a smaller group... as per the host.. so if your sister has no budget, then fine.. invite as many as you want.. but IF it's your family doing it for her and you can't afford 150..then one must draw the line... it's the respectful thing to do... and your sister should understand.

I had about 15 at my shower, only women cause hubby refused a coed. Had we done coed, we probably would have had about 30. My shower was a blast! I was able to interact with everyone on a very intimate basis. But, as you said, to each his/her own!

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I had two showers: the first had about 25 people and the other had about 10. The smaller shower was planned by my sorority sisters and the larger one was my family and friends.

My son's paternal grandmother also had a Grandma Shower hosted by her co-workers with about 15 people in attendance.

That does not add up to 150 though. She may have a guest list that's very large but may have less than 50% in attendance.

I had maybe 30 and that was my Aunts from my dads side, sisters, mom, my friends and some of my sisters friends. My husbands side also did a shower for me and that was about 20 and then my co-workers threw one at work. By the time you add all that up its close to 75. Maybe one giant is better than a bunch of smaller ones.

150 sounds like a lot but I guess that depends on if your putting friends, both families together and co-workers.

I had two in two diff states. about 10-15 each shower.
I would say it will be a BIG PARTY ! to each their own...good thing
she is planning it and not having someone else to handle this.

I had two, one for my side, one for his side.

For his side it was aunts, cousins, grandmas, mom and my mom. About 25 people there, not sure how many were invited.

For my side it was aunts, cousins, grandmas, close friends, his mom, my sister-in-law and my mom. About 30 people, but invited 50 (My dad's faimly is large and we are close, 20 lived out of state so of course did not come but sent a gift).

150 seems a bit excessive, unless she has a really big family and a lot of close friends. If you feel the need to say something, which there is no need to unless you are hosting or providing food/games, maybe say something to the extent that you never realized how big her family is... if that is not the case it seems like trolling for gifts.

I had about 35. I think that 20-40 is acceptable, esp if you have family living close by. 150?! Really? Never heard of that! Hope she rented a banquet hall!

I had 2 showers. The one my MIL threw probably had about 30-40 people (she is 1 of 8 so hubby has a huge family). And the one my mom threw had about 25 people.

150?? That was the amount of people we had at our wedding :-0

I had 4 showers with my 1st to accomodate all the people who wanted to come. we had approx 40-60 at each shower. My second born had 2 showers with 50 people at each shower. Wow, 150 at once? Thats alot of people---

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I had about 50. I had friends, family and business associates.

My shower was five or so years ago, and there were 80-90 people that attended. It was a big deal; however we had a ton of friends before we had kids, and we have a rather large immediate family (between siblings and their spouses, etc). It was one heck of a gathering, and was very nicely put on. However, if I was to have a shower now, it would primarily consist of our families becuase most of our friends have moved on (either had kids or still live the single life) and so have we.

Also - one mom is right - you aren't supposed to throw your own shower, but you are primarily the one that prepares the darn shower list.

And - the one who stated it was obnoxious - don't be so jealous.

AND - no one has that many good friends???? There were over 400 people at my wedding. 100-150 were family, the rest were really really good friends.

I invited everybody that is my friend on FB. I just was invited to a baby shower that was held at a church gym because they invited a gazziolion people.

I've never been to a baby shower with 150 people-but some people just know a LOT of people. Old friends, friends of your mother (there seem to be a lot of those) relatives from BOTH sides of the family, college sorority sisters, co-workers, neighbors.... usually though, people I know who have a lot of people to invite, often have more than one shower.

For example, when I had my son, my co-workers just had a little get together after work for me with a gift and snacks. My good friends in Chicago threw a shower for me with my friends there and my mom and sister in law through a giant shower for me in Ohio with relatives and old friends. So I knew a lot of people, but we broke it up a little, lol.

Usually though, the mother or MIL or another relative plans and 'throws' the baby shower. Is there a reason your SIL is doing her own? I think that is pretty uncommon, unless she had NO female relatives or even friends to give it for her. Lol, surely one of the 150 invitees could have hosted it?

one was 20-25 & another was like 40ish, maybe.

I think these responses are out of line, if she wanna invite 150 so what, my guest list is 134 people and 13 of them are friends and the rest is my entire family including my husbands it as nothing to do with being greedy or wanting a lot of gifts, just enjoying this moment with family and friends cause who the hell gonna have another baby shower. anyway congrats to your sister and have a ball.