How Do You Get Your Parents to like Your Boyfriend?

I'm echoing what Kimberly stated. It's about self-love first and all else will follow. There are a lot of males quick to call females out of their names. It's really a shame and that alone will bring shame to you and that relationship.

My sister and I are like night and day. However I wouldn't tolerate any boyfriend of mine or hers calling her something other than something respectful and loving.

If any boyfriend of mine was rude enough to call my sister by anything other than her name he would be kicked to the curb so fast.

If he doesn't love you enough to respect your family, why would you even want to be with a guy like that? You say you love him but he doesn't love you because he didn't respect your sister. It's just a matter of time before he crosses the same line with you because boundaries, respect, and love aren't his strong suit.

Our of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. People mean what they say and say what they mean.

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I used to have low self esteem and when I was that girl my boyfriend at that time was absolutely horrible. As I learned to truly love myself, our fights increased. He became more abusive. I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I accepted the fact that I was worthy of a better more fulfilling love which he couldn't and wouldn't give me. There is truly more than one guy out there who can and will love you. You have to stop settling for this less than what you deserve guy especially since your family doesn't like him.

I think you should think twice about having a boyfriend who feels comfortable calling your family profane names, that's what I think you should do.

If he treats someone he has no relationship with like that, how is he going to treat you?

How to get your parents to like your boyfriend? You don't. You accept that they are older and smarter than you are and that they worry for how he will treat you. You accept that, even if you love him, your parents have been there for you since Day 1 and have your best interest at heart.

Here's the thing-- you can't change their minds. Only he can. If he loved you, my guess is that he would not be causing problems with your family because he would care enough about YOU to not want that sort of trouble and stress for you.

Oh-- just read your SWH and you sound like you are breaking up with him. I know that's a hard choice, and that's also a very mature one. Take care of yourself and remember, there are good guys out there. Treat yourself with respect and you are likely to meet one! I did, 15 years ago, and we are so happy together! Take your time and choose wisely who you give your heart to.

Any "man" who feels its okay to call a woman a cuss word ISN'T a man. He should want to impress your family not disgust them. What he said to your sister is YOUR future with this person. Run, NOW!

Dating is usually a time when guys try to show a girl's family their absolute best side. If he is already showing someone you love disrespect and hate, he is either not a good guy or just stupid, or both. It will only get worse. Look for a good guy to love. They are out there! Don't settle........

Hint: look to see how a boy treats his mother and sisters. Showing love and respect for them is a good sign that you will be treated well.

Disrespect is not a good sign. It doesn’t mean he’s strong or cool or whatever. The ONLY way to fix this is for HIM to fix this. He would need to prove that his respect is bigger than his pride, and that he’s mature enough to take responsibility. Otherwise, what Kimberly said. You’re dating someone who disrespects your family – and it’ll only be a matter of time before it’s you.

Love can blind you to a lot of short comings in people. He kind of showed you his true self in the way he treated your sister. Next will be your parents and then it'll be you. Of course you'll blame yourself for getting him mad and he'll tell you that's the reason why. He may be a good guy but right now I'd think you might want to look a little deeper and take your parent's views into consideration. They only want the best for you so they may see that this guy isn't the right guy for you.

I can tell that you are very young. Your parents have your best interests at heart. They love you unconditionally and have been guiding you all this time. If they think you are better off not spending time with him - trust them.

When he called her this name, you say your parents didn't like it. How did it make you feel?

I bet you didn't care for it. At the very least, didn't it make you feel uncomfortable? That's what it feels like when someone has crossed a line. People who do, usually do over and over again.

Boyfriends don't have to like or even get along with your sister. But he disrespected your sister. And by doing so, he also disrespected you and your family.

Next time it could easily be you.

My advice would be to talk to your parents. Remember, there are guys out there that are much more respectful and will be better fits :)

My brother cursed at me when my husband and I were still dating - they had a huge verbal fight over it. When my brother went to my parents for support they shot him down. If you think it's okay that your boyfriend calls your sister names, you have a lot of growing up to do.

Your parents are right.

You sound like a nice person. I think you should look for a boyfriend who has more respect for you and WANTS to treat your family well because he knows that this is a kindness to you. I know my mom has a difficult personality and it drives my husband crazy. Yet he is very good about being kind and helpful to her even though inside he really can't stand some things she does and says. He does this because he loves me and wants me to be happy. You are a good person and you deserve a boyfriend who treats you (and your family) well.

Amen to what Kimberly F. said!!!

There was nothing "I" could do to get my Mom to like my boyfriend.
He had to act in a mature manner, be a good student, a hard worker, and treat me and everyone else with respect.
I've know him since he was 14 (I was 17), we finished high school, then college (we went to different colleges), got our careers going, got engaged, got married when he'd been working after college for one year (I'd been working 3 years), got our first house a year after that and had our son 8 years after that.
NOW my Mom loves him!

Having bad boyfriends is a part of growing up. Also knowing when to move on and let the disrespectful boy go is a part of growing up. At least now you'll be more educated on what I hope you would be looking for later. Remember when you pick the boys with the same personality as this one your dating now, your going to get the SAME OUTCOME. Live and learn. We all do.

I'm sorry but I'm not liking your boyfriend too much. If he called your sister a cuss word to her face (why?) he will be capable of calling you a few things when he is in the mood. Your family loves you and protect you. There are a million new boyfriends out there. Find someone who is kind to you and your sister and your family. You can't make your family like someone anyway.