How Do You Feel About Guests Wearing White or Black to a Wedding?

I regularly wear black (I started maybe 15 years ago after attending a 'black & white' wedding). I have also worn a black and white patterned dress to several weddings.

Southern wedding you say... Then no all white gown and no predominately black dress either. Traditional wedding rules and expectations are alive and well in the south!

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Good luck!

I think that black in more in favor these days because it is a neutral color that is flattering on most people. White, however, is a complete no-no. A black & white pattern would be acceptable, I would say, so long as it is no more than 50% white. For instance, a black dress with white polka dots is fine. A white dress with black polka dots is less so. Why even risk offending the bride?

For summer weddings, particularly in the south, florals are popular and unlikely to ever offend. It's all about allowing the bride her time to shine.

I would stay away from white, black is fine, buti do think black and white print is nice

Lbd= aok! White with a color pattern is ok....white without any pattern is not ok! Enjoy!

Honestly, I don't think about it. I would just be happy that they're there celebrating the occassion.

Im not sure what LBD means, but a plain white dress is a big NO NO, and black is good.

I would never wear solid white or mostly white to attend a wedding. I'd only wear black if the wedding is very formal. I think white with some coloring is fine, even white and black pattern is fine. The point is to not draw more attention to yourself than the bride gets. I suggest summery colors though.

It also depends if the wedding is formal or more casual. Guests at my wedding dressed a bit more casual. Most of the women wore light summery type dresses that were very pretty, but casual. Someone wore a thin pale yellow summer dress to my wedding. I loved it, and thought she was the best dressed guest there.

Go with your instinct. If you aren't comfortable with the white or black, then try to find something esle or add some color with accessories.

I would go for black on this one.
Have a good time.
Hope it's a lovely wedding!

My mom wore a really pretty black sparkly suit to my wedding. And if anyone wore white at my wedding, I didn't notice. I wore a pretty black cocktail dress to a friend's evening (and more formal) wedding.

I think as long as you don't outshine the bride, you're okay.

If you're the bride(white) and groom(black) - it's fine.
For everyone else (the ladies) anything pastel and/or floral should be fine.

We went to a wedding last weekend and out daughter wore a crisp sundress with some white on it, but had a black pattern and a red ribbon around the waist.

I noticed a lot of people with either black and white dresses or all black dresses. This was a pretty formal event. When we were shopping everything seemed to be Black and white.

No one but the Bride and groom wore all white.

I find it very hard to believe that you can't find something that isn't either white or black. Keep looking and look online if you have to.

I'm not a fan of LBD for weddings (especially in the summer), but I grew up in the South and it's just frowned-upon in general for weddings. White is for the BRIDE ONLY. Never wear white, off-white, cream or anything that looks "white" to a wedding. While I doubt anyone would say something to you, they would definitely say something "about" you.

A friend's girlfriend wore an off-white dress to our wedding and multiple people commented on how rude it was. Maybe it's old-fashioned, but the bride should be the ONLY person in white at a wedding!

If you wear black, please dress it up with color accessories, shoes, jewels, scarf, etc.

Blessings...

I wore a long (floor length) red cotton sun-dress to an afternoon southern ceremony. I am also not a size 2. I dressed it up with jewelry and nice hair/makeup. I actually bought my dress at Meijer for $20.

I just attended a wedding in New York last weekend and not one girl had on anything but an all black (and sexy!) dress. But, that was NY. I am not sure about the south!

It could be a generational thing as well. Age ranges for my "all black dress" friends is 28-33, me included.

The idea that black shouldn't be worn at weddings is long gone. But, in the summer, there are so many more fun colors.

I would stay away from all white. A girl wore an all white dress to our wedding and while it didn't bother me, it did others.

I could care less what you have on at my wedding, as long as you are there and celebrating with me. OK, maybe 'care less' is not correct - no jeans. =)

Keep searching for a sundress or go with all black or black and white mix.

Good luck to you and have fun!

black/patterned black and white is ok - NO WHITE unless you are the bride!!

Keep looking. I would be terribly self conscious knowing that everyone is thinking and discussing what I am wearing instead of focusing on the wedding ceremony.

I don't know how far your town is from civilization but stores in the malls have clothes that are more appropriate that white or black. I think any other color wold work.

It has been over a month but people are STILL talking about Kate Middleton's sister wearing a better white dress than the bride. Good grief, it's tradition in England for the bridesmaids to wear white and they are still talking about that white dress. Don't commit a faux pas, wear something else.
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To me a town that doesn't have at least one huge Mall is not civilization....lol.

I've worn All Black to many weddings, and I've worn a white dress that was Mostly covered in Big Black flowers, so i didnt feel like i was wearing 'white' to another woman's wedding!
What ever you comfortable in is how you should go :-)

My aunt wore a black dress to my very small wedding at the Justice of the Peace. Made me feel sad. I do associate black with mourning. However, brides have their bridesmaids wear black and so I"m guessing black is now considered OK.

Etiquette says the only one who can wear white is the bride. If it were me I wouldn't wear white. I would wear a print black and white if that is the only dress you find that you like.

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I am old school southern...I always heard that it was disrespectful to wear white or black to a wedding. Black seems to be the norm for Northern weddings though. I had one of my husband's relatives from New York wear a black dress to my wedding. Frankly I was a bit offended by it....

Absolutely NO WHITE!!! Go back to Macy's and show them the dress. They can order it online for you from the store (even if you can't find it online) or find another store that has it. If you order it from their inventory center (or whatever they call it) and its over $50, you will get free shipping. If its at another store that isn't within driving distance, they will ship it to your house for around $10. I have done both, so I know these are options first hand.

I was always taught that unless you are the bride, white dresses are a no-no at weddings.
As far as black, I think you can spark pretty accessories that make it look cheery, so that is ok.
The mixed print would probably be just fine.
Good luck!

I'm a bigger gal and I can find so many colors everywhere. What other stores have you looked at?

I wouldn't be bothered by someone wearing black - especially if the wedding is later in the day as yours is. A white dress wouldn't be terrible - honestly, is a white dress on someone else going to take focus away from the bride? Doubt it. Of course, my mother in law wore a white dress to MY wedding without asking me about it beforehand (it WAS on sale after all). To be honest, she was the one who looked a little silly in the pictures, not me. lol.

It used to be a big no no to wear black, white or red to weddings. But now you see it all the time. The same as funerals for many years people wore subdued colors black, dark blue, grey, now anything goes.
I know what you mean about not being able to find anything that you feel is suitable. The LBD (little black dress) has become so popular that is is difficult to find anything else.
Any chance you can wear a colorful scarf as a belt? And a pair of colorful shoes with a handbag in a similar color?

Never wear white or mostly white to a wedding. Don't even wear ivory. Not even if the bride is going to wear a colored gown. You just don't do it. Period. A black dress is fine, especially if the wedding is a black tie or formal event.

I really love to wear color whether a wedding is formal or semi-formal. Whatever I choose it just has to be flattering on me and something I won't be embarrassed to be seen in pictures ten years down the road. There are so many spring and summer colors out there that if you wore some fresh colors you'd stand out in photos against everyone who is wearing black.

What is the material made of? If it is a blend that would dye, i would buy white and dye it (, What doesn't dye, doesn't dye and can be a white trim. Blends make for pastels usually so do try to find a color that you look good in a large range that color (pastel to actual dark) and don't choose yellow as it might go cream-ish. For me that would be violets, blues or pinks. I would likely choose the violet in case the red and blue didn't take up at the same rate. Below is an amazon link to dyes for fabric:
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