Would It Be Ok with You If Someone Wears White to Your Wedding?

as long as the outfit is NOT bridal, I think it's totally okay. Personally, though, I would add a pop of color to the outfit!

While it wouldn't really bother me, I would be more inclined to take a closer look at the person who opted to wear all white to my wedding and what their thought process might be. It seems a passive aggressive sort of protest to the proceedings, and that would be worth addressing much more than fashion choices.

Like someone else mentioned, I doubt I would have noticed on my wedding day. Now, if they showed up in a full gown, veil, and bouquet of flowers, that would be a totally different matter ;)

I would not care, because people know who the bride is. She is the one up front with one of the guys wearing a Tux.. Hee, hee..

To be honest I was so in love with my husband, the one thing I wanted was for as many people to be there and to celebrate with us by having a blast.. And that is exactly how it went.. No one could have taken that away from us that day.. White dresses, black dresses or jeans.. I just wanted the people I loved to be there with us..

Once again for the 1000th time.. In Europe it is traditional for the wedding party to all be in white. Always has been there tradition.. Look at Princess Diana's wedding photos. . So Pippa was wearing what is traditional there.. She looked perfect and in no way took the glory form her sisters wedding.

If I care enough about you to invite you to my wedding, I don't care what color you wear.

Wouldn't care at all with white. Now if they were all wearing black with black veils over their faces I would be pretty pissed. (as if mourning the occasion)

I have no idea what anyone were at my wedding. White, black, purple, green who cares. I was the most beautiful bride (in my hubby's eyes).

Ive alwasy thought that it was just a give in that you dont do it out of respect for the bride. Its her day and she should be the one that stands out in a gorgeous white dress. There are so many colours and shades to choose from why would you purposly wear or buy a white dress for a wedding. Just seems tasteless
So to answer your question in short No its not okay and I wouldnt do it to someone at their wedding

if it was my wedding, I wouldn't care. But then, I got married in Vegas on the Bridge of the Enterprise, so what do I know? I figure there's much more in life to be concerned about than what other people are wearing.

I didn't even notice what people had worn to my wedding until I looked at the pictures. I could care less.

I'd probably be a LITTLE upset if someone wore ALL white, but I tend to let things go pretty easily. Heck, I'll be honest... I probably wouldn't even have noticed.

I didn't care. At my wedding a friend of mine wore a white sundress lookin thing and honestly I didn't even notice until I saw the pictures. And I didn't care.

Way past my wedding... but personally I was so focused on "us" I don't remember a thing anyone else wore-- and doubt I would have noticed if it was a pure white dress.

(Maybe if if had a long train and lots of lace or beading!)

You know what, I got married twice. I know people came to my wedding, I remember because I have pictures to prove it to me. Otherwise I wouldn't remember if the whole place was empty. I could not care at all what someone wore to my weddings. I was just glad the church was not empty. If you were LDS and sealed in the Temple everyone would have on white anyway.

We were married many years ago and several people wore white. I honestly didn't care. I had a bigger issue with a few women wearing micro mini's so short you could see their thongs on the dance floor...very tacky/trashy. So very thankful those "girlfriends" didn't marry into our family...lol.

when I got married I didn"t notice what anyone else wore. Who cares?

I wouldn't care if someone wore white. What difference does it make? My mother was all stressed out because the dress she happened to love was the same color as my bridal party's. SHe asked about 600 times if I really cared and my response was "wear white for all I care - it doesn't matter".

As far as tradition goes - different people hold onto different things. I know a lot of southerners that wouldn't be caught dead in black at a wedding - where as I know a lot of northerners that use the staple little black dress to attend weddings. I recently went to a funeral where a lot of people were in pastels and I thought it was odd - but apparently it's not since multiple people were doing it.

I had a country club wedding, and if someone were to show up in jeans, that would have made me wonder "what were they thinking" but still I wouldn't have cared - it has no bearing on my life what color someone wears.

No one should ever wear the color that the bride is wearing unless the bride has incorporated it into the bridesmaid dresses. Period. It's not just tradition, it's common courtesy and etiquette. Etiquette never goes out of style.

A dress with white patterned into a dress is a different matter, or unless the bride indicates in an invitation that her wedding is "formal black and white." Without any other indicator, you just don't wear white nor ivory nor champagne nor any other "shade" of white unless it has a pattern on top of it.

I was just thinking about this on Saturday. I attended a wedding and the bride's brother's girlfriend (early 20s) wore a white, chiffon mid-calf-length strapless dress. I thought it was kind of weird but then I thought maybe it is an outdated tradition ... because I'm old.

I would never do it!

yes I would be ofended. A distant relative on my husbands side wore a white dress to my wedding. And it was bridal ish. She showed up late, and made a scene when she came in. The magority of our guests are traditional type people, and to them (and me) she looked trashy and low class.....which she is. Then to make things worse this chick kept sending me presents for the next year. It was so odd....I barely know her and what I know of her is strange. She has some psych issues, so I just brush it off.....but this chick did it intentionally and she is smart enough to know better......

I think it makes them look bad......

We had a summer wedding, so I expected some of the younger guests to wear white. It didnt' bother me. I was not a virgin when I got married, yet I wore a white wedding dress. Tradition sort of flew out the window right then and there ;)

My mother in law wore white to my wedding. She never thought about it (or so she told me later). She found a white dress on sale at JC Penny and bought it off the rack & wore it. I thought it was incredibly rude, but then again, she was the one who looked silly - not me. I don't think a guest wearing a simple white dress is rude, but I don't think anyone close to the bride should wear white.

I wouldn't have cared, unless it LOOKED bridal.

no, i'm traditional and i think they would be doing it for attention. the bride should be the star of the show that day. Plus white dresses makes me think of first communion or graduation/commencement.

I was SO ambivalent about my wedding it was ridiculous. We had already been legally married for a while and this was just the ceremony but the only think I cared about was the food, my dress and good photos. My MIL did everything else.. including wearing white to my wedding HAHA. She said "This is the only dress I could find.." I didn't even click until someone was like "she wore white?!" I just laughed.. I think she might have done it on purpose but I seriously didn't care!

nope, the white is for the bride

I think that it is in bad taste, but as long as it wasn't a formal dress that could rival the bride I don't think it is a big deal.

Wouldn't care at all. Wouldn't even consider it, but I think that is part of my generation and lack of sticking to "traditional" things.

I don't think anyone should wear white to a wedding besides the bride. It is a bit disrespectful because it should be no surprise that a bride is going to be wearing white!

NO. I think its rude!

I don't care. I don't remember anyone, or wasn't paying attention to them.

Someone did at my wedding, and I totally noticed. It was the girl who worked as the receptionist at my office, and she was wearing an all-white strapless formal dress. I wasn't super offended or anything, but I noticed because I thought it was one of those things that "wasn't done."

If it was a gown, yup. Well, not necessarily offended, but definitely eyebrow raised.

If it was a creamy skirt suit or pantsuit, and I was in a gown. Nope.

If I was in anything LESS elaborate than what they were wearing (should I ever get married again I have visions of a simple eyelit lace summer dress, or oyster colored silk/sateen cocktail dress) and they're all poshed out in white, I think it would be odd.

However, if it was ex girlfriend, or mother in law, with full hair, nails, white wedding dress type dress... where they're making a "Statement"... then yeah. I'd be offended. Not that I'd let them know if it was in any way possible.

I still think it's not appropriate to wear white especially if it has the intention of stealing the show....That's just rude.. Now if white is mixed with other colors so what. White is a hard color to wear anyway unless you have a gorgeous tan or are a woman of color.....Why on earth would anyone want to wear it and stand out??? Insecurity maybe? My friend's MIL wore an all white long dress to her wedding. How vulgar was that??? LOL

I don't think it's silly. It's your issue. Own it.
I just wonder why a need for a second post.

I mean no offense, really, but if Kate Middleton approved the dress her sister wore at her wedding that had the entire world talking, and she wasn't horrified by the attention her sister got, I don't see why you can't let this go.
Photo-shop on to change the colors of the dresses in your pictures if that makes you feel better.
Not all weddings go perfectly and I've actually heard a wive's tale that if everything is TOO perfect, it's actually a bad sign.
There's usually a snafoo of some kind or someone gets too drunk at a reception and makes a fool of themselves. It doesn't mean the entire wedding is ruined.
If you are offended about what someone wore to your wedding two years ago, be offended. Don't pussy foot around about it.
I swear, I really mean no offense, but you are never going to get the 100% "proof" that what your mother in law and sister in law did was DELIBERATELY ugly, rude, offensive, insensitive, tactless, uncaring, and hurtful no matter what other people's opinions are.
You might as well just come out and tell them that what they did upset you and is eating you up and you need to get it off your chest.
No matter how many different ways you word things here, you won't get every single person to agree with you.
If it's bothering you this much, own it, and tell them so.
You believe they should have known better and you have confirmation from someone in the family that they did know better.
Just spill it and then maybe you can let it go.

Just my opinion and no offense.

I've seen someone wear all white to a couple of weddings in my daughter's age group. She's now 30. She said not wearing white is outdated.

I wouldn't care what they wore. No one can upstage the bride on her wedding day no matter what they wear. The attention is on you, you're the one doing all the vows, the cake cutting, the dancing, etc.

I personally wouldn't have cared if everyone showed up in wedding dresses! No one was there to see anyone but me get married.

If anyone showed up in a bridal-ish dress, well then I'd worry more about people whispering behind THEIR back than anything else! Also, with the miracle of Photoshop, you can just remove anyone you want from the pictures ;)

Wouldn't care one way or the other. I didn't want to wear white to my wedding either. It looks horrible on me and is far from flattering, makes me look all washed out. But my mom was livid and hurt that I wasn't going to wear white, so I compromised, the main body of my dress was a shade of white but the bodice, underskirt, belt and flower wreath head piece were not completely. They were a white background with large pink & red roses as the main body of the design. I got my rose red dress for our 1 year anniversary Handfasting instead, sewn myself.
Unless someone showed up in what is clearly a bridal gown and was intentionally trying to grab all the attention I would not care what they wore. Many of my wedding guests wore their renaissance faire best, I had a minotaur in my bridal party.
The tradition of the white bridal gown is relatively new. Blue used to be the color associated with purity and virginity. Red was common among the wealthy as it was a color of strength. It is still a common color for the non-westernized Chinese as it means good luck and prosperity. The non-wealthy would wear their best dress, whatever that was.
Personally I feel it's much ado over nothing.

As long as the white dress she had on did NOT look in any way shape or form to be a brides dress

If anyone else came to MY wedding wearing a white full blown wedding dress - I would not be ok with it.
No one is suppose to outshine the bride.
If they were wearing white but it was a tasteful understated gown - it would be fine.
I always thought a black dress to a wedding was in poor taste, but it became popular for awhile after Madonna had her brides maids in black.

This question actually made me curious enough so I looked at a couple of our old wedding party photos because I couldn't remember. And there were a couple of folks who wore cream and white, though no one wore a bridal gown shaped dress. I totally had not noticed before though.

I've never worn white to someone else's wedding, but then again, I don't really own or wear white dresses anyway (I've always heard that it tends to make people look fat!)

What's funnier is that so many posters seem more offended by the idea of people wearing black -- rather than white -- to a wedding. I think it's even WAY more common for women to wear little black dresses to evening weddings (sometimes with more colorful wraps or scarves as well), and I didn't even know that would be considered offensive (unless it looks like funeral clothes with a veil and dark jewelry). Good to know!

I wouldnt wear all white to somones wedding, but to answer your question, I think I would have better things to worry about on my wedding day than what other people wore, UNLESS it was JEANS!

Wouldn't it be worse if they wore black? ;-) It wouldn't bother or surprise me. I live in Northern CA and things are pretty casual here. I've seen people wear black, white and even jeans to a pretty formal event. I tend to act conservatively so I won't wear white or black, doesn't bother me if others follow this rule or not. If someone acts as Angie G's bride impersonator, I feel like they are an idiot because they look the fool.

I think traditions are traditions for a reason. This is the Brides special day...and we all hope it will be a one time deal..lol. I personally think white is the brides color..that's it..done deal. If she decides her attendants should be in an off white..that is the Brides decision. For quests..I just don't think it's appropriate...I actually feel it's a bit disrespectful. You asked for opinions...lol...and that's mine. With so many beautiful colors available...why wear white to someone's wedding...SHe should be the star.

No, better that wearing black. Jukie

Yes.

It's all about taste.

a traditional christian or jewish wedding, no that would be inappropriate.

an LDS wedding, then yes, thats fine! lol, like gamma g said. even at the reception they are usually so laid back it probably wouldnt matter if you came in jeans.

Who cares. You don't notice this stuff when you're the bride anyways. In reality, the person wearing white should be embarrassed, I am sure as the bride I wouldn't notice but the other guests might. Kinda weird.

Yes, I think it's fine... most brides are thankfully moving away from wearing white also. I know I wore a beautiful champagne dress and two women said the only nice things they had were white or black - I told them EITHER was fine, didn't matter to me. I don't associate black with mourning either.

Hmmm I guess it would depend on if it was someone who was a guest or if it was the mother of the bride/groom. If it was someone who was a guest I wouldnt mind, I did have a good friend who did wear a long white dress to my wedding, she had a baby 2 days before and it was all that fit. Didnt bother me at all. Now had it been my mom or my m-i-l I probably would have asked them to wear something differant.

A few people wore white items to my wedding, I really didn't care at ALL. The one thing that pissed me off was this one woman I don't like but had to be invited, I specifically asked her NOT to wear a flower in her hair or wear white (because I was wearing flowers in my head, no veil, AND she's notorious for trying to steal the show)... and she wore both. And thankfully she's moved out of state and I never have to see her again :)

I have never and will never wear white to a wedding, but I have no idea if anyone wore white to mine, certainly no-one close in the family did as you experienced. I have four sister in laws and I don't plan to wear white to any of their ceremonies when they marry. I did have some friends do an all white wedding and they asked everyone to wear white, but that was the only time I have ever heard of anything like that.

That's funny ~ it never occurred to me that Pippa Middleton was in any way inappropriate in her choice of dress. I assumed she wore what she was told to wear (and looked amazing in it). But to answer the question, I'm not sure I'd be truly bothered. Even though I am very non-traditional in most ways, I would be very surprised if someone wore white to a wedding, even in the summer. Wearing a partly white outfit, or a print with a white background is different and not inappropriate, IMO. But a white or even off-white dress seems very close to stealing the bride's limelight.

If I were getting married now, it may not bother me. But 23 years ago when I had my wedding, I wore an off-white silk dress that was dressy but not a formal wedding dress. We had quite a casual wedding, needless to say. One of the guests came in a dress the same color and nearly the same fabric. I did feel a bit bothered, but reminded myself that she had no way of knowing what I was going to be wearing and it was just a coincidence. It was a summer wedding, so light colors are to be expected. But, yeah, I was surprised someone would wear something so close to white to my wedding.

And anyway, white can look trashy unless done right. To me, black is different; it's classy and classic.

The whole white thing I think is outdated. However if someone wears white that is very bridal it is disrespectful.